I’m so ashamed to say this but after years and years of perseverance I just can’t take anymore I have now come to a point we’re i no longer can tolerate my eldest childrens behaviour and it’s getting increasingly more difficult for them to remain in the family home.
I have twins they are 17 both boys, for years they have been disrespectful, nasty, ungrateful, rude and aggressive all aimed at me and at times each other.
I’m a single mum and I also have three other children aged 13, 11 and 4, two of my children have a disability so life can be challenging at times.
So where to start....well my twins have never been model kids but that hasn’t ever made me love them any less or give up on them however this past couple of years their behaviour towards me has become worse and worse.
They tell me on a daily basis I’m a lazy fat b even thou I work six days a week, I’m a useless mother however I have always and I mean always supported them and gave them love and attention all their lives, they say I’m a tramp but I pay all my rent, bills and feed my kids independently, they call me ever name under the sun imaginable and constantly remind me of what a bad job I am doing being a mum.
They get arrested on a regular basis never anything major but still i don’t for a second think it’s acceptable to be like that and I always give them consequences for their actions....it’s so frustrating because they are worth so much more than this but they just don’t care.
I have had to move several times because everyone judges me and hates me because of them shouting and screaming and swearing it’s so embarrassing and for me it’s humiliating that others think of me and my kids like that.
My home is not mine anymore or the youger ones home it is their home Well that’s what they think anyway and it is literally like I have two husbands that think they can boss me around and tell me what to do and when it’s an absolute joke and so draining and mentally exhausting. They basically are bullies.
They are aggressive and at times I have had to separate them from each other punching and kicking one another I just don’t get it how they can be like that to each other.
I have asked and gratefully had help from family solutions, social services and even mind and I have worked so hard to implement changes and strategies but nothing gets better nothing changes.
I had a complete mental breakdown two years ago where for a long time I struggled to find there being any reason for me to even be alive anymore thankfully I realised that without me my children would have no one that’s all that kept me going and in time I got better.
I love all my children so much and I am a good mum but I just look in the mirror and all I see is a deflated person struggling to exist from day to day smiling on the outside to everybody but inside I’m just dying.
It has now got to the point where my poor younger children are getting upset with the twins behaviour and it is affecting them they hate the arguing, swearing and aggression I just don’t know what else to do except ask them to leave the family home.
It makes me feel like a complete useless human being because I can’t guide or control two 17 year olds I felt so blessed to be given twins and the future in my head I had for them as baby’s in my arms is nothing like the reality of what they are today.
If anyone has any advice I would be so grateful...please remember I am a mum trying the hardest i possibly can so please stay positive if commenting as negativity doesn’t ever help...thanks
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Lifeisjustpoo · 05/09/2018 23:50
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