When I had my now adult daughter I was a young and single. My mam and dad helped me to rear her as I had to finish my education and then work. Her early years while stable with my parents - they were chaotic enough with me. Things did calm down I got a good job married and went on to have 2 more kids. We have a very rollercoaster of a relationship. When we are close we are great together when we fight it's hard core. She is stubborn and can go months not talking to me. She is settled and happy she finished college getting married has a lovely child and in a great job with a lovely son to be husband. She suffers very bad with anxiety and is attending a therapist. She has told me that I am one of her triggers. This has broken me but I can understand from the earlier years. She has wanted for nothing everything I did was for her but looking back I never gave her a normal childhood like my younger daughter's. I now thread on eggshells around her. When she visits (moved a good bit away to were her fiancee from) I try my hardest to make sure the visits go well. The last one went well until the last day and we had a stupid fight over nothing but she wouldn't let it go it's like she wants a big fight. She left with her family I didn't even get to say good bye to my grandson. I knew she would now not talk to me for months but I hate that carry on. So I kept up contact through social media. WhatsApp Snapchat Facebook just little bits here and there. We now okish but she has now cancelled a few things we had all organised. I understand her anxiety is very bad and this the main reason. I also understand I don't help her anxiety and tbh as a mother I just don't know what to do. I really make very little contact with her as is just casual stuff to keep lines of communication open. I think she wants to stop all contact with me and I'm afraid of that. If I thought she would be happy and it would help than I would do this. I understand she suffers with a mental illness and I don't know how to approach it for the best. She black outs with her anxiety so this worries me too. Any advice is welcome. Sorry for long rambling post.
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