Hi folks,
So I am not a mum but an adult son. However I feel increasingly concerned that my mother is down, maybe even depressed, and am looking for some help and ideas as to what could be done to improve her state of mind.
She's 60, has been a housewife since she had me, is much closer to my sister than me, and doesn't see eye to eye with my dad much these days. I am sorry to say she literally has no friends, and doesn't see or do anything outside of the 4 of us. It might sound bizarre but she has no real interests. I even suggested tomorrow she take a break from housework, which she says is piling up and the prospect of it clearly makes her feel grim. I said, tomorrow, don't do any housework, have a rest and do something you enjoy. What do you enjoy? Her response: I don't know. How can I help when she seems stuck in a rut and fed up with life but is so utterly unprepared to do anything about it herself? She won't ever treat herself and only finds excuses not to do things, go places, etc.
I have made more of an effort to talk to her lately, start up convos, but we don't have much in common [because she has no interests, passions, or hobbies, there is no way of finding anything in common] and it doesn't get far. She goes round to my sister's daily and spends half the day there. I think she likes this as she gets along with my sister, who has a toddler. Looking after the toddler is one of the few things I have seen put a smile on my mum's face.
Hope some of that background helps in case it resonates or prompts some good diagnoses of what's wrong and what I can do to help her. She is beginning to noticeably age mentally now I'd say and I want her to get the most from remaining years before she becomes old and physically or mentally incapable of doing things freely.
Thanks
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EtInArcadiaEgo · 21/08/2017 00:39
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