I have been with my partner 2 years and for 95% of the time we have a brilliant relationship in every way possible, and for that I am truly greatful. She has two kids she has brought up on her own, a 14 year old daughter and a 21 year old son. The daughter is no trouble at all, but the son is another story. He is an apprentice and to be fair to him pays rent (albeit grudgingly) to his mum. He is fine to me and has been accepting of me for which I am also grateful. The problem is that I struggle so hard with the way he speaks to, and treats his mum. He is totaly lazy and refuses to do anything at all around the house (and I mean anything), but expects and demands everything done for him in exactly the way he likes it and if not his mum gets shouted and yelled at. My partner works 6 days a week to keep afloat, and often comes in from a long shift to nothing being done at home and at times a yelling at for the evening meal for instance not being to his liking. He will sit at the meal table on his phone and then clear off back to his room again to the playstation. He can be manipulative towards other members of the family too if things do not go his way. For sure they both love each other and are close and have been through a lot together, but seeing the woman i love treated this way makes my blood boil. For sure he is a nice lad deep down, but at 21 with no signs of ever changing this is a worry. It had resulted in a major argument today as he overheard us arguing about the way he yelled at DP this morning. He played the emotional card on his mum and told us both to F-off. I now feel so low and also a rat for upsetting DP in this way as all she does is her best for her family, and I wish I had just kept my mouth shut. AIBU?
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