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Who hasn't spent a night apart from their child/ren?

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PiccadillyCircus Mon 15-Aug-05 21:19:06

DS is nearly 21 months and I haven't yet spent the nigth away from him. As his brother or sister is due in the next month, I don't think this will be the case for long.

DH and I have kept meaning to get around to spending a night together somewhere without DS, but somehow it hasn't happened and I don't think it will now for quite a while.

I think I'm feeling a bit guilty about how DS will be when I'm not there to be honest - hopefully he will be fine and so will I.

Thomcat Mon 15-Aug-05 21:21:56

Get out and live your life and have some fun hon', he'll love having a late night with treats with whoever has him and it's healthy for you and your DH, have some fun.

Thomcat Mon 15-Aug-05 21:22:16

I mean that in the nicest possible way btw.

lockets Mon 15-Aug-05 21:23:06

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expatinscotland Mon 15-Aug-05 21:23:22

yes, when my folks come across they treat us to a night away in a b&b or hotel. last time, we had a romantic getaway in fife and it was lovely! DD didn't mind, she's too busy getting spoiled.

kid Mon 15-Aug-05 21:24:11

I didn't spend a night away from DD until she was about 2. She stayed at her nan and grandads house and I missed her. It didn't feel right without her there.

I had DS when DD was 3.3 and I was in hospital for 2 nights. DD stayed at home with DH and came to see me at the hospital both days.

It might be a good idea if you could get someone to have your DS overnight before the baby is due just so he doesn't feel pushed out. Not saying he will feel pushed out but it would get him used to the idea of staying out and having fun away from mummy and daddy.

My DD and DS stay out at least once every week now, I love the break!

emkana Mon 15-Aug-05 21:24:40

My dd1 was four in May. I have only ever spent one night away from her - and that was when I was in hospital after having dd2! That night she was absolutely fine, but she did go to bed far later than usual. She was 2 years 2 months then. I haven't been away overnight from dd2 at all - she was two on Saturday.

But in October I'm going away to a wedding for a whole weekend - leaving the dd's with dh. Am very excited already!

Nemo1977 Mon 15-Aug-05 21:26:03

Ds is 22mths and havent spent a night away. Like you am pregnant and due in dec so will prob have a night away if not a couple which I am not to sure about..lol

hunkermunker Mon 15-Aug-05 21:26:07

I've not spent a night away from DS but will spend two in a row in mid September. Looking forward to it - going to swanky hotel in town, dinner at posh restaurant, to see The Producers - all totally free and with spending money as won it in a competition!

jamiesam Mon 15-Aug-05 21:27:54

Have just spent my third ever night away from ds1! And my first night away from both ds's!

First was when I went in to hospital to have ds2. Ds1 was 22 months and asleep, neighbour slept over and took him to nursery the next day. She says he didn't really bat an eyelid. We picked him up from nursery with his baby brother!

We didn't really do a lot to prepare ds for me not being around as I didn't know whether I'd be in for a day or a week(poss second c/s, not needed in the end) - also, I thought that at 22mths there's only so much they can take in. That you will be bringing a new baby to the house is enough to take in without 'scaring' ds that you're going to be away for a bit? Anyway, that's my twopennorth!

Good luck for the big day - and make sure you sort your first night off before I did (ds2 is just over 2!)

PiccadillyCircus Mon 15-Aug-05 21:27:55

Thomcat, I am nearly 36 weeks pregnant and to be honest my idea of fun involves being safely tucked up in bed by 10 o clock .

I agree that it would be good for DS to have stayed somewhere else before the baby comes along, but I can't work out where to fit it in. Might see if DH's brother and wife can have him soon.

Maybe I will manage to be in and out of hospital quickly - it is always possible .

Hulababy Mon 15-Aug-05 21:28:20

We haven't really either.

Nearest we have got is when we went to see Robbie Williams in concert, when DD was about 16 months. My mum and dad babysat at our house and slept over. We got home in the early hours - about 5am.

But DD is 3y4m and we have just never had her stay over or away anywhere yet. The occasion has simply never arisen, and we do go out regularly. Just that she is normally babysat for at our apartment by our parents, and we go back there. Most occasions involving us being away from home include DD.

When the occasion arrives that needs it, we will ...it just hasn't yet.

Thomcat Mon 15-Aug-05 21:28:22

OMG! Wow!
Why do you girls think you haven't been away from them? Just interested.

lockets Mon 15-Aug-05 21:29:48

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Hulababy Mon 15-Aug-05 21:30:01

Thomcat - for us, just the occasion has never arisen. Parents always come to us, and we generally go back home after a night out. It would be far more hassle for us to take DD to parents first.

Thomcat Mon 15-Aug-05 21:30:34

Oh bless you PC and understand that totally.
WSill you promise me you'll have a night on the town / night away once new baby is settles. They'll have a great time, whoever has them will have a great time and most importantly you'll have a fab time with your DH, you 2 deserve it.

Blackduck Mon 15-Aug-05 21:31:53

Its not so much the getting out and having fun bit - its the NOT having to get up in the morning bit that does it for me!

Hulababy Mon 15-Aug-05 21:32:51

blackduck - that is the advantage of having the babysitting parents sleep over - they get up with DD

Blackduck Mon 15-Aug-05 21:34:08

Yes, but you still hear them (well I do anyway....) Even if my mum gets up for him I'm awake...

leahbump Mon 15-Aug-05 21:34:30

we don't live near family at all so haven't either. Doubt we will for years tbh. If we needed to we might....as long as dh parents (MIL) are not in charge!!

emkana Mon 15-Aug-05 21:37:11

Well let me "out" myself as a complete earth mother type person here ! I still co-sleep with dd2 and she still occasionally breastfeeds at night, and up until now I wasn't sure that she would cope without me there. She is now becoming more understanding, and I feel that she will be alright without me there. With dd1 I did the same, and by the time I would have felt I could leave her I already had dd2...

Hulababy Mon 15-Aug-05 21:37:39

No, I seem to have the nack of not hearing her when I know my parents are in charge. Not so much with PILs, but definitely with my parents. They take her intot he living area to read and play, and for breakfast.

Neither Dh or me sleep late, even after a night out though.

Steppy1 Mon 15-Aug-05 21:37:47

Dh and I had our first night on our own a few weeks ago....my DM came down from Yorkshire and looked after DS (4 and a half) and DD (two and a half) that was our first night away together since DS was born...and we didn't even shag (blush) just had a nice meal, had too much wine to drink...then slept and slept and slept..wonderful. Probably won't get the chance again for another few years as family are all 200+ miles away.....

kama Mon 15-Aug-05 21:38:38

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Blackduck Mon 15-Aug-05 21:38:45

HB lucky you! I don't sleep late either, but its just the thought of being able to IYKWIM....

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