This morning DP screamed at 3.5 DD for having a accident

[mummysontheedge]

At about 6:45 this morning I was in the shower and DP was still in bed, he was kind of awake because his alarm had been going off since 6:20. DD needed to go to the toilet, but didn't want to go on her own so the fact I was in the shower I told her to ask DP to take her. I got out of the shower to hear DD crying and saying she had a accident to which DP screamed at the top of his lungs "if you weren't being stupid and messing around it wouldn't have happened, now there's wee all over the floor!". DD has been potty trained since she was about 2 and stopped wearing nighttime nappies when she was about 2.5 and she has NEVER wet the bed and very rarely wee's on the floor due to not getting on the toilet in time. But she is a very sensitive little girl and gets really upset if she does wee on the floor, I don't make a big deal about it and try and make her realise that it's alright because we all have little accidents. Anyway, I got really angry at DP and stormed downstairs and said quite calmly "can we please not have this level of shouting at this time in the morning, she is only 3, she is going to have accidents, it's only a bit of wee". He sulked for the rest of the morning and left without saying good-bye to me or DD. I'm not sure if I've put this in the right topic but just hoped I could see what you ladies think?
I probably shouldn't have 'told him off' in front of DD, but I was angry and it wasn't even past 7am. Sorry bit of an essay

[DorotheaPlenticlew]

I think you were right. He should apologise.

[mummysontheedge]

Also he left her to stand there with pee soaked knickers and pee running down her legs while he wiped the pee on the floor up first. Twas not impressed!

[mummysontheedge]

Thanks DorotheaPlenticlew, I think he should too!

[BessieBoots]

You should never scream at a child. At anyone, actually. Poor little girl. And I'm a bit that your P should sulk about it afterwards!

Hope you're okay x

[GypsyMoth]

good god!!

thats horrible,poor girl......

[mummysontheedge]

just had an idea, next time he pisses on the floor I may just scream at him and call him stupid, "you stupid man, why do you always piss on the floor!" Or something along those lines. Ahh - feeling a bit calmer now

[mamsnet]

Does he piss on the floor?????

[Bucharest]

Which one did you say was 3????

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

Your DH pisses on the floor?!

[Jamieandhismagictorch]

Agree with LadyintheRadiator

Of course it was totally wrong and upsetting for her, and I would worry if he was like this before. But I would challenge anyone not to have lost their rag with their DC at least once. It's a real shame he did not calm down and apologise before he went to work.

Hopefully he will see the error of his ways and apologise when he gets home

Ig this shouting is a common occurrence then you need to have firmer words

[mummysontheedge]

I promise BessieBoots I won't scream at him
DD was ok after I washed her down and let her choose her what to wear. But I did get that thing of 'how dare you talk to my child like that.
He sulks quite alot BessieBoots, he's a bit of an arse actually (don't know why I use DP, habit I guess)
As soon as I can afford to leave I'm going to!

[Jamieandhismagictorch]

Oh - well that's different ... Is she his DD?

[mummysontheedge]

He does indeed piss on the floor, not instead of the toilet but just round the base. I'm by no means trying to paint myself as this angel mummy and I do lose my rag with her, but I think it makes it worse because I know he's extra grumpy because he stayed up till twat 0;clock playing xbox or watching porn - charming aye.

[nickschick]

Some blokes are moody gits and he was being a twat this morning.

poor dd.

[lilmissmummy]

poor you and your dd thats not what you need at that time in the morning. I would make him apologise to her.

My dd (5) has the very occasional accident and is always absolutely devastated about it!

[BessieBoots]

God, he sounds like a catch

I can totally understand losing your rag with children- we're only human, but I do not get this sulking thing at all. I shouted at DS1 last week for bringing a load of soil into the house, but I immediately knew it was the wrong thing to do and I said "Sorry, I really shouldn't shout at you. Please don't make a mess in the house."

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

Yuck. As an adult, he can't hit the toilet. Yet he thinks it's ok to yell at a baby because he wouldn't get his arse out of bed to take her to the toilet. Guy is an arse, and I'm glad to hear you're leaving him

[mummysontheedge]

Jamie - yes she is his DD, he can be really good with her sometimes. It is definatly more than just a bad morning Lady, but I'm ok I've known that it hasn't been working for quite a while, Thank you for asking though you lovely ladies

[Jamieandhismagictorch]

You poor thing. Keep posting - maybe on Relationships, if you need advice about him.

[mummysontheedge]

Bessie - he is the catchiest of all catchs I totally understand what your saying, you know if you've let your temper shout when you shouldn't and you take a deep breath and do the grown up thing and say sorry, we all do it.
I moved out of London -my family are there- so it's quite hard for them to help and I can't afford to move back there, so I'm saving up for the deposit and all the other things you need to rent a place and I'll find somewhere here. It's taking longer than I thought!

[mummysontheedge]

I think I will do that Jamie, I think it's going to be a long slog! But I'm trying to stay positive and think about how much better it'll be for all of us once me and DD find our own place. I feel sad now and then because we have been together for 11yrs, but it passes. I must stop MNing and go and do some work! .
But thank you all for letting me rant and replying, I'll pop back later,
Have a good day. x