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Good/Bad points of trying for no.3

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CarlyP · 04/08/2005 09:36

Anyone got any views on this.

I have a 19mth old and 8mth old and really want no.3.

Hubby isnt so sure about doing it now and thinks its best to wait.

Anyone got any thoughts on this?

Thanks

Cx

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 04/08/2005 09:40

i would say wait.... im pg with no2 and there will be 15 months difference. We want a 3rd but have said we will wait until these are at school.

The other 2 are still so tiny, enjoy them while you can.

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Mum2girls · 04/08/2005 09:41

CarlyP - dunno - stopped at 2. Just trying to decide whether I'm a) in awe of you or b) think you're nuts to want 3 under 3.

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anchovies · 04/08/2005 09:41

I think you're brave to even consider it! I've just got a 19 month old and pg with no 2 and am finding it hard work!

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CarlyP · 04/08/2005 09:46

It is def hard work with them 2. but its getting so much easier. i also work in london and plan to work from home half of the time and in the office half. that is my biggest worry. but the eldest starts preschool in jan (aged 2) and i think having this time with new baby and ds2 will work out well. and then in the afternoon we can all go out etc. im really excited just thinking about what it would be like!

must b mad!

cx

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Kelly1978 · 04/08/2005 09:47

If you got preg next mnth u could have 2yrs5mnths, 18mnths, and a newborn. It is possible, but might be hard work. When my dts were born dd and ds were 4 and 2. It hasn't been too bad as they could walk without needing a buggy, were toilet trained, can feed/dress themselves etc.
You've already managed a young toddler and a baby together, so it would e the same situation over again, you older one should be pretty independant. If you want three children, personally I owuld go for it, rather than waiting to start again. I'm glad mine are pretty close together, they will grow up together.

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Kelly1978 · 04/08/2005 09:48

sorry about the typos, sitting here trying to imagine wht it would be like!

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CarlyP · 04/08/2005 09:55

Thanks kelly. if H agrees, maybe next month will b good fun!!! LOL

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expatinscotland · 04/08/2005 09:56

I'd wait. It could be twins, after all.

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CarlyP · 04/08/2005 10:03

I would love twins!!!! gets no.4 out of the way at the same time !!! LOL

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expatinscotland · 04/08/2005 10:15

Sounds like you've made up your mind then. Good luck!

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sweetkitty · 04/08/2005 10:16

I have a 12 month old and am 17 weeks pregnant so will have 18 month gap. I definately want a third but not until my 12 month old is about 4 I think.

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swedishmum · 04/08/2005 10:50

I've had experience of both - had 3 under 3 then a 7 year gap. It's great having 3 so close together but I am really enjoying the little one. It's a lot quicker getting around with just one toddler!

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Gobbledigook · 04/08/2005 10:54

I did it early. I've got age gaps of 19 months between ds1 and ds2 and 21 months between ds2 and ds3. Hard work but great to get it all over with! Only 3 more yrs till they are all school!

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Kelly1978 · 04/08/2005 10:55

how many do u want?

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CarlyP · 04/08/2005 11:07

i want 3. then h is going for the snip. i work aswell, and i need to work to afford the house we live in!! so 3 is our max.....then ill start my major diet!!! LOL

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Kelly1978 · 04/08/2005 11:13

Hmm, that is what dp said - then we had twins! I wanted either 2 or 4 though, so I'm happy. Would love another dd, but have to stop now really.

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