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OhForASilentNight · 14/05/2010 14:17

Just interested in MNer's thoughts on at what age we should stop wandering around naked (erm, nope, not all the time - just on our way to bed and first thing in the morning!) in front of our girls. DD2 only 3 months so can't see it being an issue for her for a while yet, and DD2 is 3 and doesn't appear to have noticed yet... oh yes, when I ask what age I mean the children's age rather than our own although i can appreciate your concerns on there too!

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slhilly · 14/05/2010 14:25

Parental attitudes vary wildly. I don't think there's a should beyond what you feel comfortable with. Lots of people grow up into adulthood in a family where nakedness is common; others have none at all, bar changing baby's bums / baths. I stopped being naked in front of my parents in my early teens, but they didn't stop being naked in front of me till I was in my 20s -- mostly because I wasn't around them enough for it to happen, so it gradually became an issue.

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ShowOfHands · 14/05/2010 14:28

Depends what you're comfortable with. I certainly never saw my parents naked from about 8. Met DH when he was 17, his parents had no issue with it at all and still wandered naked in front of their children.

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sheard · 14/05/2010 14:32

i think its whatever you feel comfortable with my son comesin when im in the bath and had a wee etc and i wonder round in my bra he is only eight but its my house after all, whatever works foryou i say!! my husband does go mad atme as he doent think its right but after all my son doesnt complain so who cares!

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pagwatch · 14/05/2010 14:33

I am naturally quite private but I am in the minority here. And we have always tried to be aware of the children and take our queue from them

DS1 went through a stage of being very private when he was early teenager and we had the whole "dear God - my eyes my eyes !" moment when he walked in on me getting out of the shower a few times.

But now (age 16) he comes in and talks to me when I am having a bath and is unconcerned if I walk in on him

DS2 (13) is usually naked, even trampolining naked much to the of our neighbours.

DD (7) likes being naked, gets ready in our bathroom if she can and draws pictures of DH in the bath or shower etc. Usually with an unflatteringly sketched penis.

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mrbojangles · 14/05/2010 14:34

This morning I was stark naked in my bedroom chatting to my 13yr old son.... when my sons are uncomfortable they can leave the room! Ive never had an issue with nudity. That said I have a great respect for their privacy and with the onset of puberty I wont be barging into the bathroom when they are in there. As for my own nudity or my dh i'm not covering up anytime soon....

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AMumInScotland · 14/05/2010 14:57

I reckon you should stop if/when your children start to express discomfort about it - for lots of children that seems to about 8 or 10 or thereabouts, but there's no hard & fast rules about it.

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Pavlov · 14/05/2010 15:06

My mother did not purposefully wonder around naked whe I was a teenager, but would not deliberately cover up either. On occasion right into my 20's and until she became unwell, she would have no problem walking to the bathroom naked from her bedroom, or for me to chat with her with the bathroom door open while either she or i was close by, also not an issue to go to get tooth brush or whatever, but did not linger. I stopped walking naked younger than my teens as had brother around (older) and I guess that mum stopped generally being naked when he reached teens? I don't remember. But he left home when I was 12 or so, so guess it had little effect after that.

DHs mother on the other hand has no issues whatsoever with walking into the bathroom while I am in the bath, handing me a phone saying 'xxx is on the phone for you' i was shocked when she did that! She does not wonder around naked either though, but DH said she did when they were younger.

Around our own children. Not an issue for DD only 3.8. I wonder around starkers as I prefer no clothes on, DH prefers clothes on, but does not cover up specifically. As other posters have said, I will start to cover up when DD/DS becomes uncomfortable about it, not for a few years yet i think.

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