Hi, I have 3 dcs ages 5, 8 and 10 and I work 4 days a week. I have to be very organised about shopping, cooking, housework etc, and I encourage the dcs (and DH!) to help as much as possible, partly out of necessity and partly just because I think it's good for them. I want them to be as independent as possible and not think someone is always there to pick up after them.
We have always had them take turns to clean up after dinner, pick up their own toys, put their dirty clothes in the wash, clean ones away etc. The 5 year old I don't expect as much from and I help her to tidy up and give her more reminders. But the older 2 I think should be doing a bit more. We have a cleaner once a week and the evening before I remind them she's coming. They know that if their room is a mess I will tell the cleaner to put everything lying around in a black bag and they won't get it back for 2 days. And she does that, but they don't seem to care and it happens week after week.
I thought they might learn from natural consequences, e.g. if they don't hang up their towel after a bath then it will be wet when they need it the next day. And they don't and it's wet and they complain and the same happens the next day.
Am I expecting too much? My dcs think I am obviously! Can they learn to do these things or do I have to just keep repeating myself like a stuck record? Or even worse, just pick everything up myself?
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stirringbeast · 10/05/2010 16:23
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