I'm reaching the end of my tether

[vivie]

Ds1 is 2.8 and potty training, knows exactly what he needs to do but is lazy and would rather pee on the floor. He's got a sticker chart which was going okay, but now he's getting bored. I'm getting very sick of changing his underwear.
Ds2 is 8months and has a bit of a bug and some teeth coming through. He's off his food, and has some sickness and diarrohoea so my washing maching hasn't stopped much lately. He has moaned and winge-ed all week without stopping (at least that's what it feels like) and the only things he wants to do is harrass ds1 when he's on the potty, or get is hands in a puddle of wee.
I've got an impacting wisdom tooth that seems to give me pain when I'm tired and stressed and it's really sore today.
Is it possible to just quit being a mum? Sometimes I wish it was.

[lmccrean]

sign up for mums on strike (that tv show) that looks fun

[Sugarmag]

No advice but lots of sympathy! I remember how much I hated training DD when she was 2.8 and DS was 5 months and still refused to sleep through the night. it was a bad combination. DS now 2.1 adn thinking of starting with him but not sure I can face it!

Any chance you could get someone else to look after them for an afternoon and take yourself off for a bit of pampering?

[wobblyknicks]

I know its not the ideal option but can you put ds1 into training nappies for a bit, until ds2 is over his bug and your tooth is sorted? I know its not perfect but would give you one less thing to worry about now and then you can tackle the potty training when you've got less to deal with.

[mandyc66]

I would stop the training! why put yourself through all that hassle?
If he really wants to wear pants he will object to nappies and crack it without making a mess!! You need a break so go for the easier option!!!

[sassy]

I agree with mandy - give potty training a rest for a couple of weeks and try again (with a big "fresh start" hulabaloo) when you and ds2 feel better.

I gave up once with dd, gave it 10 days and tried again. Not perfect, but MUCH more successful straight away, and sorted within 2 weeks. Sometimes they (and you) just aren't ready.

Hope you feel better soon.

[Fran1]

How long have you been 'training' ds1?

If not long, i'd suggest persevering a little longer, don't give him any attention when he wees and get him to take his own clothes off and put new ones on. He'll soon get bored and realise the toilet is a better place!

If this has been going on sometime, putting him back in nappies may work also. As a] it wil give you a break and b] he'll probably not like it and decide to start using the toilet anyway.

[vivie]

Thanks everyone. My tooth got infected so I've had to have some antibiotics which I think are starting to work but it's been really painful. Ds1 poo-ed in his pants v publicly at a friend's house the other day and I think he realised that this was not on. He was quite upset actually. When we got home he told me he needed his potty and promptly poo-ed on it. So maybe some progress?
Ds2 is feeling better although he was still sicky over the weekend. He woke up crying at 2am Sunday morning because his nappy had exploded and he'd been sick all over his bed, poor lamb. I didn't mind getting up to him and stripping him down, bathing him etc, because I was awake anyway with toothache and it gave me something to do. Is that a silver lining?!
Anyway, thankyou for taking the time to reply to me winge-ing. I hope you all have a lovely week.
viv xx

[allgrownup]

por vivie, we all have some really bad days as mother's.
re the training - is awful to suggest but could you resort to bribery/reward - favourite sweets or something?, also, have you seen the 'magic thrones'?......they;re hugely funny, music when you sit, fanfare when you'perform@, I've just bought one from woolies.......is horribly gimicky but is quite an incentive.
really tough when little one's ill as you get so tired yourself - don't beat yourself up and hope tooth gets better.

[vivie]

love the idea of a magic throne. I reckon dh would like one too

[Groggymama]

what about a magic wand to wisk the poo/toothache away