as i write this my little one reancting me telling him off in his bedroom

[bumbly]

..have lost it several times again after being so good for months

but my 2 3/4 wioll simply not stop winghng...will notplay by himself and recently after tummy bug being a real pain and will not let me change runny nappy

so today when pooh wa everywhere ofr nth time i lost it

i never shoult at him - he is veyr good at most things just his whingyness

how do you dela with whingyness...after a while of being nie and tolerable i somly lose it

and my hubb y ius nbow falling suit

he is veyr calm perosn but admits iyr little one is testing us big time!

[Acanthus]

Everyone loses it once in a while. No harm done, you only shouted. Just make sure it's a good long while before you do it again. It'll do him no harm to know that you can get cross!

[FabIsGoingToGetFit]

You lost it. Have a cuddle with him. Next time just ignore the moaning. If he doesn't get a reaction he will soon learn it isn't worth doing.

[bumbly]

yes need to curb the shouting - never do more like hitting etc but i do DO shout and put him in nuaghty step lots

however am worried he is getting "DAMAGED" by me his mum of all things!!



oh well

[FabIsGoingToGetFit]

He won't be damaged by the odd shout from you. Learn from how you feel you handled it wrong and try something else next time.

[DidEinsteinsMum]

If it makes you feel better i lost it with ds yesterday and screamed at him til i lost my voice (not hard at the mo as poorly). It happens. We can to a truce he would stop screaming/yelling mummmm, mummmeee at me all the time i i would stop shouting at him. it has been a bit better today.

It happens. It wont damage them (volume wise, it is the words and understanging of the words that is where the damage can be caused).

Calm down think of the strategies that you can use instead. Plus I am a firm believer that if you dont teach them respect and values at a young age then they are not being empowered to develope into the fab adults that they should.

[overmydeadbody]

With the whinging, every time he does it just say "use a normal voice" or "I can't understand you unless you use a normal voice" and say all of this in a very normal voice yourself, so role model how you want him to speak.

Don't beat yourself up over shouting, but try your hardest not to shout and loose it so much in future, as althout it is a good release of stress for you it never helps the situation does it?

Remember that this time will pass, it is just a phase!

[bumbly]

lovelt tip and thanks!