would you make her go? i cant really get a babysitter for the length of time i will be there so means i wont be able to go. she alsi gets really upset in the evenings after hospital visits. feel guilty for saying ok we wont go today, but also need to put her feelings 1st as well.
is there somewhere at the hospital where she can play while you visit Peter? can she go to a friends house while you go?
sorry - not much use, but if she doesn't want to go then don't feel guilty about postponing this visit.
the hospital is 45mins drive away, peters mum tends to do 3hour visits, which do take their toll onb the kids, if i get a lift there myself with the kids i will stay a maximum of 2hours. its just a very long day. the other week took over 2hours to get home as well due to an accident on the m25. its basically an all afternoon thing when we go.
hun it is difficult for children,my parents were both in and out of hospital when i was little and some times you just want a normal life playing with friends etc ,its not because you dont love them or miss them but ,just want to be a child [[hugs to you by the way ]]
Hi Misdee, I don't know what is wrong with your dh/dp but is it something that she doesn't like? I mean when my grandad was in hospital my ds would go as he was just in bed, it was a stroke ward but more like a recuperation ward, however, when a friend was in hospital she had a drip (pregnant with dehydration) and he wouldn't go as he didn't like the drip)?
misdee, could you take some photos of him looking as normal and Dad-like as possible? I remember i refused to go and see my dad in hospital once, because I was scred of what he might look like. The reality was nothing like I had imagined!
I was always scared about hospitals when I was younger, perhaps it is the hospital itself that your dd doesn't like. I'm still not keen now (is anyone?) but I worry more about what I will see when I'm there, this may be what is worrying your dd too? The funny thing is, I never went when I was young and maybe it was because I didn't go and the fear of the unexpected? Maybe encourage her to go by saying that daddy would like to see her but if she didn't want to go today, he wouldn't mind? x
lulubelle, my dh is on the transplant unit, and currently has a LVAD. dd1 haws been in many times to see her daddy, as have my other 2 children. she is very aware of things that happen and has drawn a picture of daddy with his machine. she went today and we spent too much at the fair. then we stopped by another lads room to say hello, (also a LVAD patient). i feel so sad that my kids lives atm saeem to be visiting the hospital. we arent going on saturday, and will only be missing tuesday next week.