Am really caught on this one - I generally completely over think things as a rule and wish I was more easy going.
We KNOW our family is not finished yet. Definately not.
We have 2 lovely little ones - but with a 4 year, 3 month gap. Ideally we would have had a smaller space between them but dd was a suprise and we needed to build a house, get married etc.. before the next one.
Im a public sector worker (Health Service) and am aware how unbelievably lucky I am to be basically guaranteed maternity pay.
We are trying to decide on when to have our next little one. DS is 11 weeks tomorrow, I will be back in work 1st November. I adore DS and hes a fabulous little baby, but speaking to other mothers of many, they have all said "have them all together".. I dont have the experience of small children in the house as my dd is quite "manageable" by the time ds arrived - could mammys with a small space (or smaller than mine at least!!) please give me their honest, no frills experiences??
Their reasons: They grow up together - close, have always someone to play with, go out and occupy eachother, raise eachother to a degree in the respect that they learn so so much from eachother.
My MIL had 5, ages now: 28, 26, 24, 22 and 19
She told me the last, (the 4 year gap) was without a doubt the most difficult, back to nappies, night feeds etc.. the rest were just getting easier and she was getting her freedom (obviously to a degree) back etc.,. when he a arrived.
Am really torn. I HATE being pregnant, but feel blessed because I can be. Part of me says: enjoy this little man, give it time, work will be so mad, money etc..
Other part says - do it now - while its so fresh, get it out of the way (know that sounds awful - but again, hate pregnancy but would have 100 babies in the house (",))
Could anyone please give me their thoughts/ experiences/ advice?
Am also really worried about what work would say, but then again, after being bullied SEVERLY for being pregnant, I dont feel too many loyalties..
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BarbieLovesKen · 11/04/2010 22:18
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