Our current set up means that our daughter (16 mo) gets two full days with each parent, as well as 2 short days at nursery and a family day.
I know that the orthodoxy says that it's better for children this age to be at home with a parent not at nursery. If we did that, it would mean me giving up work, and my husband working long hours, often travelling for a week or two on end, to finance it.
We always talk about the importance of a primary caregiver. I don't read a lot about the importance of having two - maybe because it's impractical for most people?
I think our daughter gets a lot out of spending significant time with each of us. We have different parenting styles, so she's adaptable and knows the difference between us,and she's not learning that Mums have one role and Dads have another. It's good for our relationship, too, not having one parent who's the expert.
But then, there's the nursery aspect. Does the benefit of having her at home outweigh the benefit of her spending days with her Dad?
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How important is paternal involvement? I need to make some life choices.
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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 27/03/2010 10:37
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