I have name changed for this (its a small village).There is a local man who we don't know very well,partly because we are fairly new here,we bump into him quite a lot as he helps at the (only) cafe and he also is involved with other village stuff.He seems friendly enough,my dh and I are both pretty outgoing and sociable and are enjoying that side of village life,the man (who I will call "S")is part and parcel of the whole village network. My Dh said he feels unhappy with the way he is around our two dds,particularly our smallest,who is two.He is only doing what a good friend would do,e.g tickling her etc,but we hardly know him other than to chat to in the usual "how are you this morning" villagey type way.I have also felt slightly uncomfortable around him and it is hard to pindown why,I think he is a bit odd,he is certainly lonely and I think possibly rather bitter.He has sort of bypassed us to befriend our girls in that he doesn't chat to us (possibly he chats more to me than DH)as much as he does the children,and he is very physical with them,especially dd2.He picked her up onto his knee,he tickles her and grabs her and she really likes him,she thinks he is funny,I should emphasise nothing he does looks sexual or would be odd if my friend were to do it,but it still seems well,unusual I suppose and DH worries that he has made our girls trust him when we know nothing about him.Our older dd is 5.
I am wary of asking about him locally as obviously if he is just a lonely man with poor people skills,as is likely,then if any whiff of him being odd around small children got out in a tiny community like this it really could wreck his life,and yet we both feel bothered by him and he is hard to avoid .Any thoughts/advice?
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madorbad · 24/03/2010 22:13
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