Real life vs my alternative universe!

[Solo2]

How can I lessen the gap between life as it is and my fantasy 'alternative universe' as a parent (single mum to twins)?

In my alternative universe, we all wake refreshed at 7am and calmly get ready and I drop off the twins at school and then walk the dog, feed the chickens and the full-time housekeeper has cleaned the entire home, done all the laundry and prepared the evening meal, having put away all the shopping that was delivered earlier, when I was out....

I lunch with friends and then do some sculpting in my art studio, write more of my book and then pick the twins up from school. They're happy to see me and we get home to an immaculately clean and tidy house and pre-prepared meal. The twins voluntarily go off and do homework, after some quality time chatting with me and then we all walk the dog again and drift off into a blissfully realxed and calm evening....

In Real Life, I'm up at 4.45am, greeting the chaos of the kitchen, and do some urgent ironing, pack school bags, feed cats (we don't have the dream dog) and then DS2 is up and demanding and then I try to wake DS1 and there are arguments and we just get to school on time and I rush to start work for the day at my business that I run single-handedly, aware that I'm months and months behind in paperwork....I get no breaks at all till pick up time at school, aware that the kitchen and house are still a tip and there are piles of laundry everywhere.

Twins are cross and tired and fighting all the way home in car, hungry and wanting to be fed NOW but rejecting the meal I've planned...realise we're out of main food products but no time to shop...twins refuse to do homework, arguing ensues...I realise I've not had time to eat all day, try to make them do homework whilst I cook amidst the chaos of the kitchen...exhausted, I fall into bed shortly after they do, aware that we've had no 'quality time' all day and I feel like the worst parent in the world....

.......and I dream of my alternative universe that I don't know how to make a reality, unless I become a millionaire in the near future!!!!!!

[Nemofish]

You would still have early rising children, meal refusals, and cross, tired and fighting children. Money won't help with any of that, and I think they are 'worse' than an untidy home or having cats instead of a dream dog.

[Solo2]

You're right, Nemofish! I still wish I could find a bridge to my alternative reality though, too!!

[naitimum]

Hmm... Tricky one. I've got a delightful alternate reality too which I seem to get woken from everyone morning at an increasingly earlier time due to the mornings getting lighter... (I promise I'm not complaining, I love spring, I just wish my ds slept in a room with no windows). It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job though and I take my hat off to you.