I feel awful handled this all wrong

[chocaddict]

I am actually dreading what people will say to me about this but please go easy as I know I have made myslef look really insensitive.
Ds has a friend at school they are both aged 9 this friend is at our house alot and I regularly help her out with picking her ds up from school.
Ds sort of goes on and off this friend and to be honest the friend is not ideal for ds as he can be very naughty, he swears, whispers about people strangers etc shouts out in the street, has got me and ds in alittle bit of lumber on the odd occasion.
I am not saying that ds is a complete angel but alot of this boys lad behaviour has rubbed off on him.
I even discovered that this friend had wet under my stairs for a laugh in a game of hide and seek.
Anyway I have not been brutal enough to finsish their friendship completely and have tried to encourage ds into other friendships as well.
There has been occasion where the mates mom has asked me to pick her ds up from school and I take her ds back to mine where he and ds play.
Ds is having another mate home today from school the parnets are bringing this other mate after school.
However his regular friends mom text me to ask if I can pick her ds up again today to which I agreed I thought they can all play at mine.
Ds said he doesn,t want him here and only wants the other friend and I got stick off my dh also who has never liked the lad because he is too naughty and I shouldn,t keep having him anyway.
I didn,t cancel.
However today ds went with the mom and her ds to school today and he had been telling this boy that I cannot pick him up and he had told them that I was haing the other mate.
I got a text off the mom explaining that my ds had worried her ds by saying this and then she called me to question what ds was saying.
I honeslty didint know what to say I felt awkward so stupid me said that my ds is been a pain saying that he only wants the one mate over today and that I had told ds that it wasn,t fair to push her ds away and then I stupidly said can I drop her ds at his grandads today instead of bringing him back to ours.
I could tell she was put out and she said she wouldn,t ask me again I know that she probably feels hurt on behalf of herself and her ds and I think that this her and my ds's relationship is probably finished after this.
Dh thinks good because he thought he was no goold for ds anyway but I feel really bad.

[NikkiH]

I think you've had the patience of a saint with regards to this boy (he'd have been out of mine, never to return, the moment the wee hit the carpet to be honest!). You were put in a tricky situation and did your best to try and sort out a solution without hurting anyone's feelings or letting the boy's mum down. I'd have probably handled it very much the same way to be honest. Try not to worry too much about it - the worst that can happen is that she tries to put a bit more distance between her son and yours and that's probably not such a bad thing!

[MrsWobbleTheWaitress]

I don't think you've done anything wrong at all. You haven't let her down. TBH, I think it's a bit unfair on your DS to insist on having someone in the house he gets on badly with, and unfair on yourself when he behaves so badly when he's with you!

[Fruitysunshine]

I don't think you have done anything wrong at all. It is unfortunate that she has reacted the way that she has but you also have your family to consider.

Well done for compromising and dropping the lad off at his grandads.