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Evening routine - help!

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doggiesayswoof Thu 14-Jul-05 13:40:01

Dd is nearly 1 and goes to nursery 4 days a week. Recently I've started giving her tea when we get home from work - about 6pm. Problem is, she has decided that she doesn't need to have an afternoon nap any more so she's too tired to eat. She falls asleep in the car on the way home then does not want to wake up. Evenings are tense, dd is upset, then about 7pm she gets really perky and has trouble going to sleep. Any advice - what works for you? I'd love her to eat a half-decent meal and get back to our relaxed evenings.

doggiesayswoof Thu 14-Jul-05 14:14:15

Ooh - bump - have I put this in the wrong place?

dinosaur Thu 14-Jul-05 14:16:44

Ooh, tricky one. How do they organise naps at nursery?

My DS3 is also nearly 1 but is looked after by DH at home, so not at nursery. He naps for about an hour in the morning and has a short early afternoon nap of about 45 minutes. We try not to let him nap after 3.30 p.m.

CarolinaMoon Thu 14-Jul-05 14:17:49

what does the nursery think about the lack of nap? She plainly does need it.

TracyK Thu 14-Jul-05 14:19:08

thats precisely the reason why I didn't put ds into nursery for full days. I know he'd not nap and then fall asleep in the car on the way home etc etc. She obviously does still need a daytime nap. could you finish work earlier and pick her up about 4ish for a short nap?

doggiesayswoof Thu 14-Jul-05 14:28:26

Dinosaur, they have always put her down for a nap (in "her" cot so it's familiar) after snack at about 2.45pm. She used to sleep happily for about 45 mins but now she just creates merry hell until they pick her up! CM, she sure does need it but won't admit it methinks. TracyK, sounds great but not an option for me - I work til 5 so I can afford my precious Friday off.

PS she does have a midday nap too, usually about an hour.

dinosaur Thu 14-Jul-05 14:30:06

It is a really difficult stage. Ideally our DS3 would just have one long nap in the middle of the day, but usually he cannot last until then for his first nap and so falls asleep earlier. Then he needs a second, short nap to get through to bedtime.

Could hte nuresery get her down any earlier for a morning nap, so that she would be more tired for an afternoon one?

unicorn Thu 14-Jul-05 14:31:21

perhaps her morning nap needs to be longer - or maybe 2 naps in the morning?

Think you need to talk to the nursery staff, and try and work something out with them.

A 1 year old does need quite a lot of sleep.

doggiesayswoof Thu 14-Jul-05 14:39:26

It is tricky - I would be grumpy too if I wasn't getting my dinner til 1 hour before bed and I was tired. I think hunger's a problem as well, but short of eating her tea in the car I don't know how we can bring her tea earlier.

CarolinaMoon Thu 14-Jul-05 14:42:09

can she have a snack before she leaves nursery? or could you give her some fruit or something in the car, just to keep her going?

acnebride Thu 14-Jul-05 14:44:48

could the nursery push her in a pushchair to get her off? when ds has had nap problems a few days of 'mobile' getting to sleep has sometimes helped re-establish a sleep.

TracyK Thu 14-Jul-05 14:47:27

Oh I thought she didn't have ANY nap - so she has one after or before lunch? Do they wake her or does she wake naturally? could she have a longer midday nap - thats what they aim for isn't it? a good 1.5 to 2 hour nap at 12.30.
Sounds as if she may not get the chance to have that long a nap if there's lots going on.
Could you take sandwiches or garlic bread to eat on the way home. I do this for ds after a late swimming class and it keeps him fed and interested for the 35 mins needed to get home.
Or could you consider half day nursery, half day childminder? Cm could pick up dd after lunch and let her fall asleep - then bring her home to you after work?

dinosaur Fri 15-Jul-05 15:07:27

Good suggestion TracyK. What do you think, doggiesaywoof?

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