Do you apologise to your children when you lose your rag? Or do you not lose your rag?! (please tell me how, o virtuous mumsnetters, if that's the case). I feel I've got into a pattern recently of losing rag and then apologising. I don't like it, but I think it is right to apologise. My parents never apologised to me for anything they said or did, and I often wished they had.
yes i think its a good way to learn to take responsibility for our behaviour - its the only way for them to learn to do the same. i usually give a reason aswell, most of the time its 'sorry mummy is grumpy as i didn't get much sleep last night and i'm really tired'!
Yes I do and I see no problem with it either. We are human and our kids need to know we have bad days too. However I do let them know Im apologising because I went OTT and am NOT excusing whatever behaviour it was that caused the reaction IYSWIM.
yes I do if I think it's me being a moody cow rather than them being naughty. I often explain to my DD (6) that mummy is ratty today because I'm tired, or had a bad day at work and something happened or whatever. I think it's a good thing rather than just ranting wildly and them thinking that's all you ever do.
My parents were of the never apologise, never explain "old school" too alhambra and despite the fact they were and are great in so many other ways, I have found that hard to deal with.
I do lose my temper with ds and dd and do apologise when I am in the wrong. And then we have a quick chat about why I got cross and how I ought to have handled it. If ds gets cross the same applies to him and will do in due course with dd, but she tends to explain with her teeth and fists being less than 2...
Yes, I do apologise if I think I am in the wrong and I do it quite often. This morning I snapped at poor ds and he was upset, so I said sorry and explained I hadn't had any breakfast yet and was hungry - so we went out an ate croissants.
Yes, I apologise and try to explain if I'm in the wrong or if I lose my rag unjustifiably. I think it's important for my dd to realise that even adults make mistakes sometimes, and that she realises that we need to be polite and kind to our families as well as to other people.