I have a 9 week old DD and I don't think I love her .
I have a 2.8 yr old DS and I felt such strong feelings for him when he was born. I doted on him as you should do and I thought he was the most beautiful baby I had ever seen (naturally)!!
He was hard work and by 3 months I struggled to feed him and by 4 months he was diagnosed with reflux and put on meds. He still smiled inbetween feeds. He still lay in his cot and slept or slept in his pram from time to time. I felt sorry for him when he was in pain and crying and I loved him indefinitely.
My DD has much worse reflux. I can't believe it's happening again. I was struggling to feed her by 4 weeks and she was put on meds at 7 weeks. It helps a bit. Instead of her screaming 24/7, she screams for about 4-6 hours a day or night.
My DH can calm her and she loves sleeping on him but all she wants from me is milk.
If I try to calm her she just roots like mad to get to my breast and ends up screaming even more.
Babies with reflux do either of two things - don't feed much as the pain puts them off (that was DS) or try to feed constantly because the immediate feeling of the milk soothing their throat feels good but over feeding makes reflux symptoms even worse - cue the screaming.
I can't lie her in her expensive new pram so it's going on e-bay.
She can only sleep on her tummy so the mobile is made redundent. We have to put the hairdryer on day and night to calm her a bit - she doesnt like the white noise CD's we bought her, or the reflux chair.
The Osteopath couldn't help her after 6 visits he gave in!
Ive bought an ergo baby carrier but it's hard carrying her weight (she is heavy) and pushing DS in buggy. I can't lift him in or out etc so it's not ideal.
Yesterday I was trying to stare at her to make myself feel more and what happened - I noticed she has my husbands and in-laws eyes and not mine and DS's and it bugged me even more - how weird is that.
I started thinking she was a bit ugly, not like my beautiful DS. I know how awful that is but im being very honest and I hate the fact I was even thinking it, it's madness.
In the morning she bugs me the most. I feed her then can't put her down without her turning purple screaming. So poor DS doesn't get dressed for hours. I can't even put the dishes in the dishwasher or get my bloody shoes on to get out.
I feel exhausted and fed up, totally withdrawn from her.
Has anyone ever felt like this or am I just evil?
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Don't think I love my baby
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whensmydayoff · 16/02/2010 10:14
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