How should I deal with the fact that my partner is totally inconsistent with our child at bedtime?
We have terrible problems getting her to sleep at night mostly as a result of my partner showing conflicting patterns that our daughter gets confused by.
Our daughter is 3. she's a well behaved and lovable, but when it comes to bedtime, she plays-up terribly.
I've recognised that it's an issue, and it's compounded by the fact that my partner changes the bedtime pattern to our daughter to suit whatever mood prevails.
Most evenings we promise our daughter a present if she learns to sleep in her own bed. We impress upon her that she needs to learn to sleep alone and happily.
But whenever it suits, my partner gets our daughter out of her childs' bed - and brings her to the matrimonial bed - simply for selfish comfort, and not for her own benefit!
Of course, our daughter wakes up in the morning thinking "yippee! I slept with mommy and daddy".
It has resulted in a passionate argument, and now a terrible impasse, with each of us frustrated and throwing accusations, but no solutions for our daughter.
How do I deal with this?
It's driving me mad and causing terrible fights between us.
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Inconsistent Parenting at bedtime.
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ScarletSunshine · 30/01/2010 23:16
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