thinking of maybe having baby no.3...

[cupcakes]

Don't know why I suddenly feel nervous about this - have finally persuaded dh that this would be a brilliant thing. He's done the practical thing (like working out if we can fit 3 children into our house!) and now seems happy to go for it! So why am I suddenly anxious?
Don't know if it's the thought of pregnancy + birth again or those early months or just how loud three children will be! How many fights I'll have to sort out, will there be enough of me to go round etc.
Suddenly can't think of the positives! Those of you with 3 children - what are your experiences??

[jolou1]

Cupcake, how old are your children? I've had two DSs very close together and feel a bit overwhelmed at the moment, (they're nearly 3 and nearly 4 and fight like loons) but I can't believe I've had my last baby. I'd like to wait a year or two (then try and convince DH!!) but I will read this thread with interest!

[emmatmg]

I got 3 and we live in the noisiest house in the street, that fight alot and usually over the most ridiculous things(for example....Like who's going up or down the stairs on which side!!!), I'm pretty much always busy and very rarely see the bottom of my washing bin.


BUT for me it was the best thing ever having No3 ( we have 3 boys) I'll never forget the feeling of knowing I was PG again because I was desparate for another baby. I would have gone on and on and on always wanting one, the feeling never goes away IMO so if you want one, then the best thing to do is bite the bullet and go for it.

[cupcakes]

My ds is just 5 and my dd is almost 2½. The gap between her and the new baby is already bigger than it was with ds and her. Don't really want to leave a big gap which is one of my reasons for thinking of trying NOW!!

[fishfinger]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah lovely with three
its a r eal gang

there are a few threads extoling hte virtues

[fishfinger]

here

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there boys here

[cupcakes]

emmatmg - I do want another baby, I just don't think I'm quite at the desperate stage. The whole time with dd I never considered that she was my last. I know I want another baby which is why I'm surprised that I'm a little anxious about it.
I just don't want to bite that bullet and then regret it (sorry if that sounds a little rude)!

[fishfinger]

here

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here

[cupcakes]

ah - thank you cod.

[fishfinger]

I found it was a head nad heart thing
head said no fishy you are barking
heart said aaaah you knwo you want to

[cupcakes]

how did I miss all those?

[fishfinger]

dont think they are much louder htan two tbh

[cupcakes]

yes - I am having the head and heart row. When trying for dd it was a no brainer as we wanted more than one child. This third baby seems like a luxury and I just wonder if I've gone a little crazy.

[fishfinger]

so what
do it

three gets you RESPECT

lol

[spidermama]

I think the most precious thing you can give your kids is siblings.

[fishfinger]

lol misread that as "sobbing"

[cupcakes]

yes, I would be taken seriously as a mother!!

[jolou1]

A good friend of mine has just had her third and is loving every minute of it. She says she loved being pregnant and is enjoying her baby massively because the decision to have number 3 was a biggie. Like me, she had two very close together and found the first two pregnancies, births and early months a complete blur. This time, she knows what she's doing and the older ones are at playgroup/school, allowing her a bit of time to herself and the baby. Blimey, I'm doing a good job of convincing myself here, never mind you cupcakes!

[fishfinger]

oh yes

three isthe new two!

interstingly the birth rate is oging down but only becasue more people are having no kids
BUt hte number of THREE kids is going up!

[emmatmg]

Fishy, chuckle at the respect thing.


Very VERY true though.


Cupcakes, I did have the anxious feelings of " OMG what are we doing" but by that time I was about 34 weeks pg

[cupcakes]

I'm telling myself that 2 is just soooo predictable

[golds]

I too am having this arguement between my head and heart. I have dd 7 and ds 5, I made the decision to go for No. 3 after a long time of deliberating all the pros and cons and when I fell PG was over the moon, unfortunately I lost that PG and am now back to square 1 with my thoughts again.

My added problem is my 2 are both at school, Ive also the battle in my head of going back to nappies etc or having freedom. Will watch this thread with interest. If this helps in anyway, I wish I had gone for No.3 sooner, so the age gap wouldn't have been so big.

[emmatmg]

cupcakes, seriously that was one of my thoughts......I didn't want to be like everyone else.