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Kangaboy has been away on his 1st residential school trip BUT comes home tomorrow

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RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:04:23

DS has been away since Monday on a school trip

It is his first time away from us apart from single nights at grandparents or friend houses.

This time it is 4 nights and 5 days away.

I have been worrying about this trip for about a year

He has just had his 10th birthday and is in class 5 {half of class 5 have gone and all of class 6}

Last october we had to choose whether we wanted our child to go in the ballot for the chance to go on the trip, I really didn't want him to go into the ballot but forced myself to let him and he was picked out.

DS hasn't been aware of my nervousness about the trip cos I didn't want my feelings to influence his decision whether he wanted to go. IYSWIM.

I really didn't want him to go and on Monday morning when we had to leave the house I just looked at him and tears streamed down my face

And so he came to hug me and said "I won't go if you don't want me to"

We then hugged and I said that he would have lots of fun with all his friends and that they were probably feeling the same

It was so hard saying goodbye to him Monday Morning.

I could only cope by coming to Wales as well

So I have been alone in a hotel "just in case"

I have been very lonely here but it is better than being over 4 hours away at home.

DH had to stay at home cos of work.

We are not allowed any contact from them apart from a letter.

I have sent him a letter and so did DH and DS has written to us but we haven't recived it yet.

I was going to be allowed to see him today cos they were going to do a very long walk that he couldn't do cos of his hypermobility but they changed it so it is a very short walk so he has gone on it.

I will go back home tomorrow morning and they should be home tomorrow evening.

I just hope he has had fun and hasn't been too homesick

I have heard other parents say that when they come home they are sometimes angry and very emotional

If I don't reply it is cos this hotel internet is rubbish and I keep loosing connection to it


starlover Thu 30-Jun-05 19:06:07

oh RTKM... well done both of you! I bet he will have had a DEFFO BRILL time!

MrsGordonRamsay Thu 30-Jun-05 19:06:49

Oh Kanga

It is so hard,but we have to let them go by degrees and that is what you are doing.

Much love


SoupDragon Thu 30-Jun-05 19:08:26

You silly soft old marsupial

RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:26:02

Thanks guys my friends think I am mad

but it was the only way I could cope with him going

So I am here alone in a hotel bedroom with my laptop a rubbish connection that keeps stopping and my DIGI box {that I brought with me} so can watch E4

DS knows I am here for couple of days but don't think he realises I was here the whole time

I know I am silly but also am proud of myself that I let him go at all IYSWIM

VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:34:14


VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:34:55

he is 10 fgs!

this is seriously bizarre
liek a mum who usedt o park her cr outside nursery and sit int here for 3 and a half hours
the staff used to piss theirselves

RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:36:17

Sorry SD I meant my RL friends who say I am silly meaning stupid

And yes Coddy I have come up here as well BUT have not gone anywhere near where they are

VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:36:38

so why have oyu gone?
think this iss seriously weird kanga

RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:37:30

The other option was NOT to let him come

I feel I have chosen the better option

RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:39:06

Because we live over 4 hours away on good day travel

And I was worried that if he had accident then it would take too long to get here

Yes I know I am weird but at least I let him go

beetroot Thu 30-Jun-05 19:39:58

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VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:40:44

but you need to get on wiht oyur life!!

I think this is " smothering behaviour" having a kid involves lots fo risks you knwo that, and one of them you take is that yes you may not be there if he had an accident.

But you needto realise that and live life for what IS happening not what may

VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:41:16

do you work kanga? what dot hey say about you being in wales?!!!

beetroot Thu 30-Jun-05 19:41:43

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RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:41:47

Anyway now they have turned off my internet connection

MrsGordonRamsay Thu 30-Jun-05 19:41:54


Ease up, he was one of two and this is a hard time of year for Kanga.


RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:45:25

I work as childminder but the mum is on maternity leave

Yes what I meant was serious accident ie needing operation not just falling over

YEs I know I am mad BUT I feel pleased that he has gone and that I let him go and this is my way of coping with letting him go

VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:46:00

I wont say any mroe as I have been told not to.

RTKangaMummy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:47:18

Thanks LGJ I have to go now

I didn't want to get into arguement anyway

I am on dial up now but have to turn it off now

MrsGordonRamsay Thu 30-Jun-05 19:47:57


I just said ease up, in case you had forgotten about the fact that DS Kanga should have been a twin and that this time of year is hard for her.

Wasn't telling anyone what to do.

VladimirIlyichUlyanov Thu 30-Jun-05 19:48:18

no i know
so I wont say any more

AnnaInManchester Thu 30-Jun-05 19:53:31

Vladimir....shame on u...u prob just made Kanga feel really stupid. She obviously loves her son very much to go and stay in a hotel near his holiday.

MrsGordonRamsay Thu 30-Jun-05 19:55:33


Plaese stop, Cod realised and backed off, suggest we leave this unless we want Kanga to come back to people arguing, ??

AnnaInManchester Thu 30-Jun-05 19:56:43

who's cod?

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