I'd really appreciate some input on a situation with my sister-in-law. She's lovely and accommodating and everything, but she is being quite persistent about my ds spending the night at her place. She has four kids, two younger ones and two older ones (from a previous marriage) and I only have one child, my son who is 4 yrs old (turning 5 very soon). Quite frankly I don't want him staying over there just yet - I think he's too young. I know she thinks I'm too protective of him, and if I refuse to allow him to spend the night (and the next day, which is what she wants) I know she'll give me a hard time about being over-protective, blah blah blah.
The thing is - he's still only 4. She is a VERY laid-back person and she often doesn't know where her kids are. The two young ones (6 and 4) often just leave the house and go across the street to a neighbour's house, and my SIL doesn't even know where they are, until it eventually dawns on her that they're not around. Then she'll go looking for them, but several times they have been outside riding up and down the road on bikes or scooters, or following older children around who live in the street. It's a reasonably quiet area but cars obviously still drive up and down the road, and as yet, my son still doesn't have a lot of road sense. So if she's not watching them, I don't want him over there for long periods of time when I'm not around. It may sound over protective to some people, but honestly, I have been at her house a couple of times when her kids have gone 'missing', only to discover that her two children have managed to unlock the gate and let themselves out - and one day they were running across a road with my son following right behind them.
I just don't feel comfortable about it. And the worst thing is that dh doesn't really seem to agree with me, which surprises me as he knows what my SIL is like. I know she's going to keep persisting, and I hate confontration so I'm not really sure how to handle it. Please tell me that I'm not being paranoid.. he's my only child and I'd rather wait until he has a bit more sense and maturity before I leave him to his own devices with kids who don't have a lot of boundaries. Thanks....
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Mandy03 · 26/06/2005 13:25
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