Anyone else's toddler a 'talker'? Anyone else worn down by it?

[HohohoBumperlicious]

Ok, first off can I just say that I love my DD and am grateful that she is so eloquent and able to express herself.

DD is 2.5 and talks all the time, from the minute she wakes up till she goes to bed, and you can just tune out, she usually need a response or just keep repeating what she has said with more urgency. A trip down the stairs of out flat can take 5 minutes:

Mummy, is that your coat?
Yes darling, keep walking.
That's Mimi's bike.
Yes darling, that's Mimi's bike.
I've got my hat on.
Yes darling.
Mummy hasn't got her hat on.
No, mummy hasn't. Come on darling.
I've got my purse.
Yes darling.
Peppa Pig's on my purse.
Yes darling, now hurry up or we'll be late for nursery.
I like nursery. Max and Oscar at nursery.
Yes, Max and Oscar are at nursery.
Suzy's at nursery.
Yes Suzy's nursery.

And so on. The worst is the morning when all I want to do eat my cereal and listen to the news on the radio before going to work, without a running commentary on my bowl, my cereal, my boobies, do I like going to the toilet, are those daddy's knickers I am putting on (no they are just big!).

I'm just feeling worn down as DD is still up at the moment, was in her room for about an hour then decided she didn't want to go to sleep. DH and I were happily listening to a talking book, but decided to let her up for an hour (she doesn't do this very often, but experience tells us that it is easier to let her up for an hour than sob then take ages to calm down).

Is anyone else's toddler like this? She is very eloquent for her age from what I can tell and I only ask if other people's toddlers are like this as it's not something that other people complain about so I was wondering if I am being a complete grumpy arse over this or if other people have the same incessant chatter which wears them down.

I love her and she is funny and lively but I just need some head space, some silence...

[weaselm4]

Hello, I had one of those! And yes, it wore me down. He's 3.9 now and doesn't talk QUITE as much, think he's developing an inner monologue, bless him!

I totally know what you mean, and hadn't really thought about it until I read your post, but I really think he talks less now (or I tune out more now that I've got a DD too!)

[HohohoBumperlicious]

Yes that it, she absolutely has no inner monologue, I know it is a developmental stage, but I know not all children are big talkers.

Maybe it just bothers me so much as I value my space, not everyone has that same need.

I just need reassurance that I am not just being a miserable goat, it is wearing?

[ShowOfHands]

My dd is 2.6 and chats all the time. She has been speaking fluently since 18 months and it has just increased.

I'm the opposite to you though. I LOVE it. She's so interested and interesting and funny. It's one of my favourite things about being her Mum that I get to listen to her mad stream of consciousness.

[Rebecca41]

My DS is 4, and is just like this! He gives a constant running commentary on life, and it always requires an answer.

Like you and your DD, I love him dearly, and I find much of his chatter enchanting. But there are times when I actually have to tell him to stop talking for a while. For example, if I'm trying to concentrate on a letter I've just opened, I just can't do it if I'm having to respond to all his statements and questions. I feel so guilty doing this, because I love the little person he's becoming, but sometimes I just need 30 seconds of silence!

[Wanderinginawinterwonderland]

Hi Bumper (I used to be Izzybel on the June 07 thread, don't know if you remember me?)

Yep, DD is just the same. A friend came to my house to seeabout me childminding her son and I think DD started to get on her nerves a little bit, constantly asking questions and making remarks.

Like you, I'm proud of the fact that she speaks so well and more than any other than children I know of he same age, but sometimes I do think, "arrgh, just SHUT UP!"

[weaselm4]

I'm always amazed that if I really take the time to listen, the constant burbling actually makes sense!

But I'd like to reassure you, Bumperlicious that you're NOT being a miserable goat - we're all different and constant noise (even if it is from a much loved child) will affect some people more than others. I know I get quite frazzled by it.

Hang in there!

[taczilla]

my bf summed it up beautifully it is like having a saucepan on your head and your child is banging on it with a spoon,my ds is a chatterbox and starts EVERY sentence with "you know". My dd just says Mummy > yes dear> pause >mummy> yes dear ad infinitum.

[MollieO]

I had one of those. Drove me nuts. He is 5.5 now and he is still the same. He even talks in his sleep. You will find that it does become somewhat embarrassing when they start targeting random strangers for in depth conversations.

[SolosScrapingUpForXmas]

Yup! Dd is exactly the same and when she's not talking she's dancing...actually, scratch that, she's usually saying 'look at me Mummy, I'm dancing my ballet' and on and on and on...Never shuts up and she's also still up and playing . She wont go to bed, wont stay there and I just find it easier to leave her to it until she falls asleep being bf tbh and that could be any time! drives me mad. She'll turn 3 on Boxing Day and has always been the same and talking incessantly for over 18 months.

[carrieNchild]

I sympahise completly. Knave a (just) 2 yr dd, who doesn't pause for breath from the moment she opens her eyes.

Unlike your dd though, my dd has only a few sentances and I hear them over and over again. The most popular one being 'what's that?' She also repeats herself until I answer and there is only so many times I can tell her it's a cup, tree, man etc etc. I do try and vary the answers to help her devolpment but it's so so draining.

I agree, mornings are the worst. I just need five minutes to wake up and have a coffee before I deal with the incessent questions.

I never realised till I had her how much value I place on my space and 'me' time. Still I tell myself that when she's not there chatting away in my ear every second of the day I will miss it so I should cherish this time - it's always easy though!

[HohohoBumperlicious]

LOL Taczilla

Yes Izzy, I remember - hi!

I just remembered another circumstance which it really wears me is when driving - I can't concentrate! I do ask her to be quiet for a minute then sometimes but she never does.

Bless her, she is funny with it. TTC at the moment, hoping to have a sibling for her to talk to!

[giddyupRudolph]

DS is 2.6 and never shuts up from the minute he wakes up to the moment he goes to sleep. And woe be tide if you're not listening properly and try to fob him off with a "yes dear".

[PlumBumMum]

Yes My dd3 is like that, and she makes me feel dizzy, especially in Tesco

Although when in Tesco and I pick something up, and say actually no we don't need these she will say "mummeee(exasparated look), stop talking to the cereal etc"

[ShowOfHands]

Does nobody else love it? I do occasionally, I admit, phone grandad and put dd on and she'll spend half an hour walking him round the room and explaining it to him. Time enough for a cuppa and a wee go on MN.

[carrieNchild]

Excuse typos, I am on iPhone which is pants for MN'ing quite frankly

[ShowOfHands]

Oh God the silence when she's old enough to go to school .

[MollieO]

StayFrosty you won't miss dd when she starts school. You will get continual reminders of her talkativeness from her teacher who will mention it every time she sees you. Ds puts his hand up but thinks that that action alone gives him permission to talk all the ^time and he gets into trouble as a result.

[Wanderinginawinterwonderland]

I have 2 mindees that DD can talk too. One is 22 months. He never stops for a breath either, constantly telling me which animal is which and blah blah blah.

He's not fluent like DD but it won't be long. Can't wait .

[Wanderinginawinterwonderland]

Showofhands, I love it really! The things she comes out with are hilarious.

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

I have 2 of these, one is 6 and one is 3.. it is constant, and the hard thing is that the 6 year old is asking real questions that need listening to and deserve and answer, when they go to bed I just want silence for a while..

DH interrupts them and short circuits the ramblings but that makes them very frustrated, so I have to be honest, I half listen and nod and smile and do my best.. it is tiring though isnt it!

[Wanderinginawinterwonderland]

Stayfrosty, I understand what you mean about dreading them going to school.

Once DP and I went out for a meal whilst DD went out with her Grandparents. We haven't really had her babysat before and we missed her sooo much. It made the evening feel quite depressing really and it just felt too quiet!

[boolifooli]

DD was a chatterbox but now at 6 she is a 'woman of few words'. DS gives us a running dialogue from morning to night but I assume his commentary will drop off at about 4.5, as did dd's. It is as if they just learn to internalise their thoughts at about that age.

[SolosScrapingUpForXmas]

Oh yes! driving! I get; look at this Mummy// I can't darling, I'm driving// But look Mummy it's blue// What's blue darling?// LOOOOK Mummy, why can't you look?// I'm concentrating Darling// whyyyyyy? etc etc...