the teacher took you aside and told you that this afternoon he had been in trouble for calling the assistant a loser?
ds2 is 6. In his defence though it seems to be the in joke at the moment as a few of them have been laughing in the playground before school starts calling each other losers so i don't think he really thought he was being very offensive.
but i am cross
Pretty tough. First on the basis of calling anyone a loser, but secondly on the basis of being cheeky to an adult supervisor. Whether he claled her a loser or something else, he shouldn't be calling her names. I'd want him to understand that there's a difference between an adult with authority and a child.
not very hard, more of a rote "you shouldn't have said that, should you?", repeated a few times before bedtime, and threats of harsher punishment if he does it again. Wouldn't do more unless he actually did repeat the offense.
My ds is 6 and for a while in the playground the kids were calling each other idiot and bum bum head and of course my ds picked it up and started saying it too at home. One day I asked him if he knew what any of the words he was using meant and he said he didn't know, therefore I said to him he was being really silly using those words that he didn't know the meaning of and it did stop him from saying those words but we will be moving on to some other random words soon I expect!
i have told him off and explained that it was out of order. I also told his dad which he begged me not to do but i have told him that i will now let it drop so long as he never does anything like that again.
i know what you mean QofQ but i do think that they can see that cartoon chracters are fantasy much more easily than seeing or hearing things from real life people iyswim.
what would you have done with your child?
I'd have 'hoped' the school would deal with it seen as though it was in school time, but if they felt the need to tell me, or if they said it to someone when I was there I would tell them in no uncertain terms that it wasn't acceptable.
I think they told you because he is usually so well behaved. IME when well behaved children have small behavioural slip-ups, the absolute best way to nip it in the bud and avoid a repetition is to tell the parents.
She hasn't told you because she couldn't deal with it herself, she's told you because she knows he's well behaved and therefore knows your parenting technique carries weight.