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being a SAHM getting me down now...

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ComfortEater Mon 09-Nov-09 19:23:00

I love my children more than anything(3 & 1)but am finding staying at home with them very tiring, repetitive and to be honest dull.

Lots to do for under 5's in our area but I am finding it all very tedious and all a bit of an effort nowadays.

I find myself comfort eating crap and getting a bit down.

I am looking to get back into work in January when my 3 year old increases his nursery (he currently goes 2 days a week) and 1 yr old is in nursery 2 days a week, but I am just too exhausted to think about doing what and how I'll juggle it all...

I guess this is a general moan although I feel guilty that I am feeling this way as I am very thankful for the life I have.

Am I alone? Is this normal?

nearlychrimbo Mon 09-Nov-09 19:28:46

I know how you feel. I got a little part time job when ds was 2 years - just one day a week, lucky enough for hubby to have DS on that day. It saved me and kept me sane.

I now work 2 days a week and again really enjoy the release and he extra money each month.

Can you do the same? Or if you can use nursery, child care join a gym or go swimming, book a beauty treatment each week and have that time for you???

robino Mon 09-Nov-09 19:41:48

Could have written the self same thing this week. So no, you're not alone. And I think it's normal, or at least I hope it's not abnormal grin

Have had no childcare whatsoever since we moved when DD2 was 5 weeks old (she's now 16 months, DD1 2.9). Am supposed to be doing a distance course but getting nowhere very slowly as OH works long hours and commutes a long way too so I tend to do everything from wake up to bedtime 5 days a week and then just do not have the energy (or brain power) to get much done.

I was also trying to decide about working (or not) just to get a break but I have a sneaking suspicion that our family work life balance is as good as it gets at the moment. Having said that, I got a call from my previous work last week asking if I would consider returning for two days a week and I am now seriously considering it, even if it skews our balance. Don't feel like I'm being a particularly good mum at the moment and maybe two days a week will help me get some balance.

So, you're not alone and I hope you work something out soon.

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