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Why does he do this and how do we handle it?

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Fabster Tue 03-Nov-09 18:39:23

DS1 has been sent to his room a couple of times tonight and is now in bed. He is 8. A few minutes ago I went in to check on him as I heard a big bang. He was on the floor and refused to get back into bed and told his Dad and I he hated us. Then he was crying. Usually I will get it out of him that something is wrong or something has happened at school or he will just tell me to go away. I asked him if something had happened and he shouted NO! so I have left him.

I can't assume there is something wrong every time he behaves unacceptably as that would be all the time. hmm

He is now banging on the bedroom floor.

inthesticks Tue 03-Nov-09 19:36:47

To his eternal shame my DS2 once scratched "I hate mum" into his headboard when I sent him to his room. He was 8.
I'd wait until he calms down completely then make him laugh. Talk about why he did it later.

Fabster Tue 03-Nov-09 20:02:44

I know he doesn't hate me really so I am not too phased but that comment.

He is asleep now so we will see how he is in the morning.

bloss Tue 03-Nov-09 20:29:43

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Fabster Tue 03-Nov-09 20:36:16

Brilliant idea, bloss.

I think I will write that and put it in his room to find when he gets up in the morning.

bloss Tue 03-Nov-09 22:02:05

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Fabster Wed 04-Nov-09 07:20:40

I wrote a note for him. I added help me help you and also put that I love him and nothing will change that. He didn't see the note so I had to give it to him.

He said he was feeling sad and what was bothering him was me interrupting him. I promised to not interrupt if he could promise to listen to me better.

I think it worked a treat. Thank you

I will definitely use the note idea again.

bloss Wed 04-Nov-09 13:41:26

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Fabster Wed 04-Nov-09 18:23:06

I hope to find some time to fully read the book before the kids leave home hmmgrin.

bloss Thu 05-Nov-09 18:52:40

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Fabster Thu 05-Nov-09 19:57:34

I am currently ignoring my 4 year old when he is going on and on whinging and eventually he does stop so I guess that works but don't think to do it with the older ones.

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