I always wanted a large family - 3 or 4 children. After we had ds the financial reality dawned on us and we realised that it would be very difficult for us to have more than 2 children.
The feeling of wanting a larger family never went away and deep down I really wanted 3 children. When we were on holiday in the summer I told dh that I didn't feel that I would ever be complete unless we tried for 3 children (at the time we were still ttc number 2) dh didn't agree and said that 2 should be our limit.
A couple of days after returning from holiday I discovered I was pregnant (after ttc for 1 year) with baby number 2. As soon as I saw those two lines on the test I knew I felt complete with two children. Three months later I am excited about the pregnancy and can't wait until we meet our new baby next spring and I have no desire whatsoever to have any more children after this baby. Even if we won the lottery I would choose to stick with two children.
It is weird how I literally changed my mind overnight. I never imagined that I would feel this way.
i do that from one dayto the next i would like to stay with 2 but then i want 3. i believe when you no longer have the feeling of possibly wanting another child you'll know you've reach your limit. hopw this helped