Sorry for posting what could be the stupidest thread ever! My DD is 6 wks tomorrow, but I am worried I am not doing the right things with her. I am worried that when she is awake I hold her too much and she is bored (yes I know she is only 6 wks old!) What I am asking is if I put her on her activity mat for a short time in the mornings and the evenings, and put her in her bouncy chair so she can look around is that enough stimulation? We are getting out for walks and to baby groups too. Any other suggestions? Or am I just being ridiculous?
Just chat to her. If you have anything nice for her to look at, that's a bonus, and she might like quiet music. But mainly she probably just wants to be cuddled by you, hear your voice and smell your body near her. I don't think a baby of this age needs anything more than that, tbh. I imagine the baby groups are probably more important for you than her atm!
Don't worry I remember worrying about the same things.
I'm a believer in carrying babies, so I don't believe in holding too much. As for stimulation, if she's bored she'll let you know! They usually don't hold back about things like that ;) If she's in her bouncy chair and can see you moving around (doing laundry or whatever) that's fine. Sounds like you're doing well - I'm sure I hadn't quite managed Baby Groups at 6 weeks!
Why don't you try doing whatever you feel like (in between usual domestic and post-partum stuff) and seeing whether she is happy to go along with it? That's the best way of finding compromises to suit the two of you. It's harder for her at her young age to take the lead, but she'll let you know whether or not she's happy
Cuddling her and making eye contact is stimulating her. What you are doing sounds lovely, just relax and enjoy getting time with her that you don't need to do things in.
A social worker friend told me when dd1 was born that she actually found it quite 'odd' to be around a baby who made good eye contact and made sounds in response to what you said to her etc. She had worked at that time with quite a lot of babies who didn't make eye contact because their parents didn't have the skills to talk to a baby and encourage them to respond. Something so basic and those babies weren't getting it, they were just plonked down in various locations and ignored I've never forgotten that and when I meet mums worrying about not doing enough with their baby I remember it and think that we really don't appreciate these basic essential things that most people can do even without knowing it. Your baby will be doing great - as are you!