dd is 2.3 and is quite good at saying please and thank you, if she asks for a drink or food she will always say can i have milk please etc and says thanks for food and says excuse me when she coughs/sneezes so i think she is doing ok. BUT when my mom is with dd she constantly pesters dd to say please and refuses to do things until she says please and im not sure whether my mom is being ott or im being soft. eg. dd will say nanny play with me and my mom says say please. nanny can i have the red crayon, mom says say please. etc etc. so my mom wants dd to say nanny play please, nanny can we crayon please, can i have red please and i think its not natural as i dont say please in every sentence, only when asking for something to be passed or asking for a drink. what do you think.
I agree with you, it just isn't natural to say please/thank you in every sentence. Children can often ask for something in a lovely manner, without having to add please or thank you to the end. "I would love to use that nice red crayon" is polite enough in my opinion (and I'm a stickler for manners ) I do think that people of a certain generation do get a bit obsessed with good manners. Would your mum take it ok if you just told her what you put in your op?
Does she make her say 'ta' too? Does my mum say 'ta'? No . . . but dd had to say it . . . however she is a doting grandmother so I forgive her, I think the 'please' and 'ta' come with the job description!
I'd love to comment but my ears are still ringing from the 'discussion' with my parents last week when i was told I don't say please and thank you, (Dh and friends can't believe it when I told them as I defo do)
Some people just expect gushing in every sentence.