DS turns 2 this week and Nursery have started doing settling in visits for him to move up to the next room, but with out asking us first, and it's got me really upset but for lots of different reasons.
The logical reasons for being upset are Firstly that strangers are decicding what is right for DS without any reference to us. Secondly because I don't like some of the older children in the room and the way they behave, the language they use. Thirdly because the ladies in the older childrens room STILL insist on baby talking to the children and I have had weeks of correcting the baby talk that he learnt after learning the proper names for things before going to nursery. (a fight I expected to have when he was 7 not 16 mths!)
Then after talking to him this morning about going to play in the older childrens room today he said he didn't want to, so I asked that he didn't go upstairs today, only to have one of the directors phone me and pretty much tell me that he had to go up stairs because she needed to move children round and he would hold others up if he didn't (that got me really ). So much for doing it when the child is ready - I wanted them to start doing it weeks ago but was told catagorically that he was far too young and they won't consider it - in other words they didn't have the space or teaching staff to do it (and I am very aware that I have contradicted myself completely here (smile) - this is why my father used to sing Mary Mary quite contrary at me when I was little).
I think I am upset because I am missing out again, I had PND for the first 18mths of his life that was missed completely, I self diagnosed when he was 12 mths and even then got no help what so ever and was left to fend for myself - without DH I would have walked out and never come back.
I missed out on 12mths of his life and now others are taking decisions away from me and the choice of being involved in his life now and that hurts.
I hate the fact that there are complete strangers dictating what he does and when, the ground rules and boundaries that he learns and they are so different to what I want him to learn. I know that when he goes to school I have no choice and that at that point he has to fend for himself, but I feel that I haven't even had the chance to help him find his feet yet and already our family values are being diluted in ways that make me really sad.
Ok I need to stop now as I have bored anyone that has had the patience to read all of my ramble. Thanks for reading if you have. Just needed to vent.
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Nursery making decisions for DS without involving us (long sorry)
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Harrizeb · 14/06/2005 13:47
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