DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 4 weeks old.
It's all gone tits up this week. DS1 and DD have both been misbehaving (ignoring me, squabbling, being deliberately destructive etc), but more worryingly DS1 is showing signs of "angst". He's poo-ed himself yesterday and today, and wet himself numerous times (he's not had any accidents for weeks...maybe months), he's refusing to get himself dressed (he's the most stubborn little sod in the world, and we've had literally hours-long stand-offs over this), and he's being sooooo clingy (demanding cuddles whenever I'm feeding DS2, trying to put his hand down my top, climbing all over me, literally lying down under my feet when I'm trying to cook etc).
I'm being SHITE about it. I think I know what I need to do...I need to totally baby him, don't I? I need to get him dressed and ignore all the deliberate naughtiness and give him a million cuddles. BUT, I'm finding it so hard to indulge him with this...I keep asking him nicely to stop doing whatever disagreeable thing he might be doing, and then after the umpteenth time I SNAP and yell at him.
I feel so bad about shouting at him (especially when he's clambering on me for a cuddle ), but I'm beginning to feel resentful towards him. I'm feeling drained of physical affection and desperate for personal space.
I need to get over it don't I?
I think I'm most worried that my snappiness (alternated with guilt-ridden over-compensating affection) has already psychologically scarred him. The poo-ing and wee-ing thing is particularly worrying me. Isn't this time of regression associated with emotional trauma?
My poor little boy...
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Oh sodding Hell. I am a disastrous parent at the moment. Please help me with DS1 who is feeling displaced by new DS2
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EyeOfFrogSpawnChorus · 22/10/2009 19:16
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