Reasons to be happy SAHM's!

[whensmydayoff]

Hi

I am a SAHM and have read a lot of threads lately about the boredum that often comes with the job!
I felt that since my PG hormones are blessing me with a GOOD DAY I should share my reasons to be happy and hopefully cheer you all up.

1. Unless you were a formula one racing driver or TV presenter, were there not days at work when you'd look at the clock and it was 2.30pm then 3 hours later you'd look again and it was 2.40pm !
   
   
2. If you tried going back to work, and I did - How horrible was it when your mum/childminder/nursery worker told you about what they had done today for the first time. How horrible was it when your child seemed to prefer them to you?
   
   
3. How fast has it went? It will get faster still and you'll look back and be glad you were the one bringing them up, seeing the progress, there for the hugs and funny bits. One day you will wish they were young again and wonder where it all went.
   
   
4. Do you have days where you are near tears or actually in tears by time DP/DH gets home? Little horror has upset you/made your day hell. Did nobody ever do that to you at work?
   
   
5. We will all be back at work, working with someone we have nothing in common with, clock watching or stressed out our tiny minds and think back to the days when we were pushing our babies/toddlers on the swings or having a relaxing coffee with other mums and wonder what we were moaning about.
   
   Don't get me wrong, I too have found myself so bored that I think I may just stop breathing.
   I have had evil thoughts towards Thomas and his friends.
   I have stumbled across mums who are less interesting than paint drying and had to endure an hours conversation about sleep problems or weening when that all seems like light years ago to me.
   It was just this morning, Im 28 weeks PG. I decided to look through my DS's baby clothes to see what I will keep and wash when it struck me - I can hardly remember him wearing most of them or him being so small. What the hell do you do with a baby anyway!
   I came on here and seen more threads from bored SAHM's and just wanted to remind you all how quickly you will not remember these days.
   If it didn't cheer you up a bit - It killed 10 minutes reading it! x

[MamaVoo]

Too right! I moan a bit sometimes about the monotony but do agree with all you've said. I can't believe my big hulking toddler was once a tiny scrap - doesn't seem real. Good luck with your new baby.

[TheCrackFox]

No commute?

[onadietcokebreak]

Are you a troll? Or just nasty? Or plain insensitive

How horrible was it when your mum/childminder/nursery worker told you about what they had done today for the first time. How horrible was it when your child seemed to prefer them to you?

you'll look back and be glad you were the one bringing them up,

not very nice quotes

[InTheZenGarden]

Phew!! I've been back at work for 6 months, and have 3 weeks left, then I am a SAHM. When I went on mat leave, I honestly thought I would want to go back to work, but really, I just want to be with DD.

Totally agree with you about hearing what your DC has done second-hand. DD does things (small things, like hand actions to songs) and I have to ask nursery why she is doing it, what song am I supposed to start singing when she does this

Can't wait til, once again, I will know why she is doing everything. Well, most things And not feeling constantly torn between work and DD. Fed up of feeling lile I'm not doing my job properly, or looking after DD properly. Soon, at least I will only have one thing to worry about!!!

[InTheZenGarden]

Oh god, onadietcokebreak, just cross posted. Hope you didn't take my agreement with the OP as an insult. Just looking for reassurance that I have done the right thing Personal decision, I know.

[HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst]

I don't see what is wrong with either of those quotes, actually onadietcokebreak.

The OP is posting on things that she finds great about being a SAHM, and both of those things would apply. Are we not allowed to enjoy things just in case someone else who is not in our situation might get upset about it?

[Lilyloooohhhh]

Onadietcoke bit harsh shouting troll no ?
I agree it is nice to know what they have done in the day
The op is finding things that get her through the day being a sahm no ?

[smackapacka]

I like hearing what my CM has done with DD knowing I don't have to do it.

Playdoh out the carpet anyone?

She's only there 2 days a week, so I have a nice foot in both camps

[Ladyatron]

some of us have to work.

[onadietcokebreak]

Maybe I am being a tad sensitive today (for the record I recently became a SAHM though) but I thought that what she wrote was rather anti working mum and it annoyed me.

[whensmydayoff]

Wow onadietcokebreak, No Im not nasty, certainly not nasty enough to come onto a thread aimed directly at bored SAHM's and call someone a nasty troll!
We too have a shit time for different reasons some days as you will see with a lot of the threads on here.
It's nice to remember the good reasons for not working -
Just like there are plenty of good reasons for working.
Feel free to start your own happy thread for working mums. I won't be going into it as it doesn't apply to me.

[allaboutme]

I thought it was a really nice post OP
Its lovely to see the good in what you are doing (despite the fact that others have chosen a different route for equally good reasons)

[smallorange]

Here we go again.....

[HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst]

FGS
Can we not write anything any more without it turning into SAHM v WOHM ?

"some of us have to work"
Yes. And? Your point is?

[Ladyatron]

my point is , smug statements such as
'2) If you tried going back to work, and I did - How horrible was it when your mum/childminder/nursery worker told you about what they had done today for the first time. How horrible was it when your child seemed to prefer them to you?'

are really hurtful to mothers who have just put their children into childcare.

and this is a free forum so i shall write what i like.

[onadietcokebreak]

certainly not nasty enough to come onto a thread aimed directly at bored SAHM's and call someone a nasty troll!

Read again and you will see I am a SAHM.

However as I had already said maybe I was being oversensitive but I still feel you could have worded those parts better.

Lets not let this descend into a SAHM v WOHM.

[Ladyatron]

but a thread like this can only become nasty. certain sahms or wohms feel the need to justify their existence, for some reason, on mumsnet and that entails slagging of the alternative.

[whensmydayoff]

Crossed posts with last lot!
Smackapacka I'd much prefer to have best of both like you. If I could have had just 2 days Id have grabbed with 2 hands.
I was a shift worker with long hours.
Ladyatron and onadietcokebreak Im sorry, maybe I should not have bothered with thread. I sometimes feel heart sorry for SAHM's who write posts about being very lonely as I have felt this too. There just seems to be a lot of it on MN just now so I thought Id share some happy thoughts about with SAHM. I suppose I didn't think that lots of working mums (as I once was) would bother to read it. I don't mean to offend. I do realise people have to work and I am fortunate we can manage.
The good points about staying at home are true and pretty obvious but believe me, when you are standing in a windy park on your tod for the third time that week, it's easy to forget.
I am never crossing this subjects path again !

[Northernlurker]

OP - just to point out op that my child enjoys nursery and is attached to the workers there but has NEVER seemed to prefer them to me. That may be your experience - I can't comment on that - but as a mother of three having logged a lot of nursery hours I've neither seen that or experienced it myself. The fear of your child not liking you best is not a reason to be a sahm.

[HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst]

But it's not aimed at "mothers who have just put their children into childcare", is it? The clue was in the thread title: Reasons to be happy SAHMs.
It is quite probable that a lot of the reasons for enjoying being a SAHM are going to be at odds with what working mums have chosen. This does not necessarily make them "smug".

[FlamingoBingo]

Thank you, OP. I do love being a SAHM, and I'm wondering if I'm one of the posters you're referring to.

It's sad that people think it's hurtful that you didn't like hearing what your DC did second-hand.

[whensmydayoff]

smallorange - ha, Im new to MN. Im guessing ive just walked right into a no go area. >slopes off to change name

[Lilyloooohhhh]

FGS hwy oh why do these 'lighthearted threads always degenerate into SAHM V WOHM
The title was reasons to be hapy to be a sahm
surely you only click on threads that hold interest to you , i have been both a wohm and sahm big deal. The OP felt sorry for bored SAHM and wanted to cheer them up a bit!!!
People are allowed to have different opinions to you.

When sadly a mnet contentious issue but who knows why.....

[Quattrocento]

1. Unless you were a formula one racing driver or TV presenter, were there not days at work when you'd look at the clock and it was 2.30pm then 3 hours later you'd look again and it was 2.40pm !
   
   No, never but then I've only ever had interesting jobs. Much better to work hard and develop your career so that you can avoid clockwatching types of jobs.
   
   
2. If you tried going back to work, and I did - How horrible was it when your mum/childminder/nursery worker told you about what they had done today for the first time. How horrible was it when your child seemed to prefer them to you?
   
   Not horrible, just interesting. My children always seemed quite pleased to see me. I don't think that's unusual. If they liked seeing someone else, and enjoyed their company, I'd think that was great! Multiple insecurities in that suggestion, I think.
   
   
3. How fast has it went? It will get faster still and you'll look back and be glad you were the one bringing them up, seeing the progress, there for the hugs and funny bits. One day you will wish they were young again and wonder where it all went.
   
   I am always open for hugs and funny bits.
   
   
4. Do you have days where you are near tears or actually in tears by time DP/DH gets home? Little horror has upset you/made your day hell. Did nobody ever do that to you at work?
   
   No. Never. Your job sounds truly horrible. See response to (1) above.
   
   
5. We will all be back at work, working with someone we have nothing in common with, clock watching or stressed out our tiny minds and think back to the days when we were pushing our babies/toddlers on the swings or having a relaxing coffee with other mums and wonder what we were moaning about.
   
   The gulf is so huge here. You are describing situations I can't relate to. It would be horrible to have coffees with other mums and talk about nappies all day. I love the cut and thrust of trained minds at work.

[HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst]

It's somewhat ironic that the OP felt there had been a lot of depressed/bored SAHM threads recently and was trying to cheer them up with this thread.