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Tell me our coping strategies for living with whining

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TheHouseofMirth Thu 08-Oct-09 17:24:47

As far as I can tell, whining comes and goes and there's usually some underlying cause (illness etc) and eventually they grow out of it entirely (when they're about 20). So assuming it isn't really a behaviour that one needs to modify but just live through, how do you do it?

After a few hours of it today, much to my disgust I actually found myself telling DS1, who is 4 to shut up. I obviously need to get a grip and wondered if anyone had a "tricks" they'd like to share? Apart from alcohol.

AddictedtoCrunchies Thu 08-Oct-09 17:26:58

Earplugs? Fingers in ears and 'la la la'.

Sorry, but am watching for answers and it drives me up the pole.

imaginestrictlytwirlynamehere Thu 08-Oct-09 17:45:23

No answers either but feeling the pain. DD1 is going for the 2012 Olympics in whining.

I go for "DS, you are using a whiney voice" and he will generally make an effort to whinge less if he wants something from me. But I do end up saying it a lot.

TheHouseofMirth Thu 08-Oct-09 18:08:43

Just spotted typo in thread title. See, it's rotting my brain!

I was thinking we could send them all to Afghanistan. I imagine the Taliban would give themselves up pretty quickly if forced to listen to my DS. Not sure how much of a barrier it would be that he doesn't speak Pashto/Dari. Come to think of it, it doesn't as his first language is currently the universal language of Whine.

Anyway, pleasant fantasies aside, anyone else with something a bit more practical?

Kerrymumbles Thu 08-Oct-09 18:12:03

this is one of the reasons I am happy I am going deaf...

ShrinkingViolet Thu 08-Oct-09 18:15:57

I used to do LOTS of "I can't hear you if you use that whiney voice" repeated ad nauseum, and now (DD3 is 7) all it takes is a raised eyebrow and maybe a "was that a whine I heard?" to stop it in it's tracks.
Best of luck smile

<<is encouraged by ShrinkingViolet to think that maybe this will work after all>>

MadBadandDangerousToKnow Thu 08-Oct-09 19:12:58

Much like ShrinkingViolet, I used to (and still do occasionally) say that I won't respond to anything that is whined at me rather than said.

Persevere!

purpleduck Thu 08-Oct-09 19:20:55

Shrinking Violet - thats what I do! ..."I don't understand you when you whine" and totally ignore until a non whiney voice is used.

Works!

wisterialane Thu 08-Oct-09 19:23:13

Another vote for the 'I'm ignoring you until you speak to me properly' school of thought - it does work!

SixtyFootDoll Thu 08-Oct-09 19:25:19

ANother vote to not responding until spoken to in a normal voice

hazeyjane Thu 08-Oct-09 19:42:27

Both my dd's (3.7 and 2.5) are champion whiners, I try to ignore, and do the 'I can't understand you if you whine' thing, but it doesn't seem to have any effect at all.

I usually rely on copious amounts of rescue remedy, deep breathing and popping upstairs to get something so that i can stick my head in the wardrobe and scream.

I just have to keep repeating 'its just a pahse, its just a phase........'

TheHouseofMirth Thu 08-Oct-09 20:05:35

I don't know what's worse though, the sound of the whining or the sound of my voice repeating "mummy can't hear you/only dolphins can understand you/I'll do it when you talk properly". I think I've got a very persistent one here!

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