my experience is more like sugardumpling's than the one you describe sally, sorry! they are v different and if the second had come first i may not have had another! but still really enjoying watching them interract together etc. hard work but so worth it....
All 4 of mine are completely different. I'd say DC1 and DC3 were harder work as babies, DC2 and DC4 harder work as toddlers. Now they're all older (oldest is 22), they're nothing like each other. Each comes with their own set of things to fret about .
DS1 - baby from hell, v short fuse (still, now 6), v bright, scaredy cat. DS2 - much more laid back, v cheeky, v physicially advendurous. DS3 - v lively, currently hard work as going through temper tantrum stage, but great fun. DS4 - who knows ? - due March 10
It is just lovely to watch them interact with each other. It'll be fine whatever personality your LO will turn out to have.
dd as a baby was chilled, easy, a dream sleeper and as turning 6 is now full of it - lovely and polite but more hyper and ratty at the same time. DS as a baby was a nightmare - hard to settle, not chilled, not laid back and at 2 is like a whirlwind coinciding with his big ssters whirl wind phase - he has mega tantrums too and also if was first we probably wouldnt have had any others. That said he is so loving and a complete mammys boy. I am looking fwd to his calmer years.
DD was not an easy baby - when DS arrived he was the stereotypical 2nd child, slept well, fed well, no trouble at all.
DD is now 3 and a well-behaved, easy-going little girl. DS is 18mo, into everything, can't take your eyes off him for a second. He is fearless! So you might get an easy baby but it's no guarantee they'll stay that way
Very different, 2 boys, 2 years apart, look very similar. BUT very different temperaments/personalities. DS1 walked at 11mths, DS2 was 15mths DS1 didn't really speak much until he was 2 (and DS2 appeared ), DS2 was speaking in sentences at 15/16mths. DS1 is very active always on the go, DS2 will sit and play for hours.
DS2 is a lot quicker tempered and more stubborn than laid back DS1.
DS1 Difficult baby, now - smile for everyone, loves people, can go from calm, laid back to hyperactive and moody in seconds, real Jekyl and Hyde. Great sleeper, good eater (2.4) DC2 Perfect, never hear a peep, no trouble at all (still in tummy) ! Im so watching this thread with fear though!
DS - dark haired, dark eyed, very fine boned and delicate build. Hideous baby - screamed constantly for 9 months, but now a lovely, quiet and gentle 10 yr old, very bright, articulate and adores maths, science and learning.
DD - blond, blue-eyed, tall and robust build. Lovely baby, slept lots, smiled at everyone, but manic toddler, very accident prone. Adores people, loves to talk, but not academically minded at all!