We have been offered the chance of a long weekend away in Europe. We would be doing without DS, who will be five months old. Half of me would love to go, and the other half is lying in bed awake at night worrying that I will go and be a total mess. He would be cared for by reliable grandparents and in character is an easy going, generally happy chap. Please can you tell me any experiences you have? Good? ...or bad?
I don't want to go and spend the weekend in tears/ in a panic! But maybe I would be ok once I got there?
It's only a few days, he will be adored by his grandparents and no doubt have a whale of a time being the centre of attention!
And I truly believe, after 3 children and 12.5 years of marriage, that time alone as a couple, not just mum and dad, can be really beneficial. DH and I had time away when DD1 was 9 months and it did us the world of good.
GO!!! Your ds will be fine. Its only for a long weekend and you can phone for reassurance updates whenever you need to. DP and I went away for a week when my dc were small and I was at how easy it was! I did miss them loads but I knew they were being looked after and I thoroughly enjoyed having a break from being 'Mummy'. Just think of the lie ins, time to yourself. Actually - I'm quite now.
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply, and for the overwhelmingly positive response. I was gearing myself up for someone to say they had a disastorous time and spent the whole time weeping/on the phone. Maybe those replies are to come...!
Either way, it is reassuring to know that other people have done it and done it successfully.
It was mooted when I was pregnant and I was so excited by the idea of drink and heels and excitement I hadn't factored actual, real 'mothering' feelings...
But it is now fast approaching and I need to make the decision.
Ginny you would not be of the hideous dress I have (tentatively) bought for the trip. I have clearly lost all my taste as well as my faculties....
Go. Have a practice run leaving him for one night with you close/in case (if you haven't already)DH and I always go away for a w/end in London in November, just to reconnect with who we are, as a couple. It undoubtedly makes us better parents (albeit ones that need to 'get a room' courtesy of teenage DD)and we went when DS was 8 months with no problems.
The only reason I never went away without my children when they were little was because I was BF and they wouldn't entertain bottles. When DD was 11mths old me and DP went away for the weekend and left her with her big bro and granny- no problems at all and DP and I had a fantastic time.
Honeyapple that is a really important point. DS is pretty much exclusively breastfed. Howver, I have expressed from week one and he has had no problems with a bottle, and has taken formula on the odd occasion I have had a night out.
Did you go far away? I think one of my worries is actually going on a plane. It seems worse.