I would really love to hear both sides of this.
DD is 24wks and DS is 2.7yo. We don't do anything at a set time although we do things in more or less the same order every day I suppose - DD can wake anytime from 5.30 - 7.30am for the day, so her feeds and sleep during the day will follow whatever time she woke - and they are never the same gap from one day to the next - e.g. she isn't ready for a nap 2 hours after she last woke every time, and doesn't go 3 hours between every feed - sometimes it's 1.5 hours, sometimes 3.5 hours.
Sometimes DD gets overtired (watch as I do for sleepy signs, they're just not always there), which gets stressful for me and DS and I suppose I'd love a baby who is fairly predictable with nap and feed times, but have wanted her to settle into her own routine, rather than impose one on her, and am hopeful that over the next few months this will happen as we start weaning, as I'll be offering her meals at the same time as us, so am hoping sleep and feeds will settle around these.
However, do you think babies and children themselves need a routine - do they need to know what's coming next and is the fact she's still not there yet, due to me not helping her out along the way? - I get stressed when she's hard to settle at nap times and wonder if I need to start putting her down at the same time each day so that she'll get used to it, as she's round about the age for 2 decent naps now.
I would really love to hear how you got into your routine with your DCs, or if you don't have one at all, how it works for you. TIA.
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Do children really need a routine? - and do they set it themselves if so?
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katechristie · 30/09/2009 10:58
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