I have a 4mo and a 19 mo and the last year and half have been pretty hard. I feel that our marriage has been seriously affected and want some reassurance that things will get better. We had niggles as everyone does but children has given lots of reasons to find fault - a lot of it on my side, DH just doesn't attend to things as well as I would like. I am now worried as he is obssessed with DD1 and worry that he will never give DD2 a chance (I was most upset at birth of DD2 that DH and MIL were not bothered and didn't phone SIL on the day and she thought something was wrong with baby - it was like both of them were so what). I am obviously tired and suffering from sleep deprivation and a lack of time to do anything for myself and for us to do things together. I know I overanalyse and read too much into things (got peed off when DH said I needed to get back on track with DD1 - as if I haven't been looking after her for the last 4.5 months). I want to calm down and take everyday as it comes and want people to tell me that you do survive these first few years.
I am trying to get DD2 sleeping through the night (well 12-5am would be good) and DD1 may go to a nursery 2 mornings a week so all of that may help by xmas.
Just sometimes feel quite down about everything - feel I don't exist anymore as me - PIL say "look after the children" - don't feel anyone gives a toss about looking after me.
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Have children spoilt my marriage - will it get better?
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whatalongday · 28/09/2009 13:29
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