DS is five. A normal little boy, sometimes an angel, but sometimes downright hard work.
Have just had a really bad weekend at my MILs. She is very supportive and helpful but at the weekend she told my DH that DS "runs rings round you both". She has said this before and also in front of other family members. I find it really hard to say anything as she is lovely really and she doesn't mean it in a horrible way.
DH is all over the place parenting wise. He shouts, threatens, smacks without warning and then just gets really angry saying DS is out out control and needs a good thrashing.
My opinion is that he was excited as he was out of his own environment and was with his cousins as well so a lot going on. Things came to a head in the evening and DH told me that I practised "namby-pamby" parenting and that I basically make excuses for DS. I shouted that he had zero parenting skills.
I've recently started reading "How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk". I've tried a few things and they seem to work and I also use sticker charts, distraction, trying to make things fun etc. etc. but I feel as if I'm on my own. I feel drained by all of it and sometimes I do just think "God, I could just give him a good hard slap on the bottom".
EVERYONE-DH, MIL, my own parents obviously think he is spoilt (am super sensitive about this because he is an only child). They are always banging on about smacking and "it never did them any harm".
I've tried so many times to talk to DH about how I like to bring up DS and what methods we should use and how we should put on a united front when dealing with him. He isn't interested in reading any books. I've even written it down in steps and he just doesn't seem to take it in. Nearly every weekend there is shouting (DH works long hours so not at home much during weekend).
Lately, I'm just beginning to think DS is becoming brattish and maybe everyone is right-perhaps I should start smacking but only as a last resort and only with a warning.
Am so tired with it all-does anyone have any advice?
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I've never agreed with smacking but thinking of starting-can anyone talk me out of it?
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piacere · 21/09/2009 20:06
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dittany ·
22/09/2009 00:30
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