My 11 year old ds hates his curly hair and it is making him so unhappy. He and all his friends started growing their hair in year 6 and they now have sleek fringes etc and he can only get the effect he wants with products and of course it doesn't last. He hasn't liked his hair since he was about 7 but always wore it short. He will not have it cut and hairdressers I have spoken to have been quite blunt about his thick hair and not as sympathetic as I'd hoped.
He is so handsome, sporty and reasonably clever and I have tried telling him this and how lucky he is, but it isn't working. He just wants to look like his friends. He has just started secondary which I think has made it worse because he is meeting lots of new people and he isn't happy about how he looks. He is with his old friends too.
He doesn't want to go swimming anymore and didn't go to football practice on Monday. I am so worried that he is letting it affect so much of his life. I want him to enjoy being a boy and not let his hair restrict his activities and his life. I am worried how much it is affecting his mental state. This morning he was not happy about how it looked and left for school very upset. He came rushing in 5 minutes later crying, begging me to keep him at home, saying that he hated his hair and it made him feel sick. I told him I couldn't keep him off for that reason and got him to calm down. He eventually set off wearing his hat, worried now about being late. When he'd gone I looked out of the window and saw him walking up the road and I just cried. I hate him being so unhappy. I know it might sound trivial to some but it is becomming a real problem and I am at a loss as to what to do.
Any advice would be gratefully received.
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ds 11 hates his hair - advice please
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friendly · 16/09/2009 12:55
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