Because we are going mad and need to vent with people who understand. I am sure none of my friends believe me when I say my eldest can be difficult because in public he is a dream. But at home he is often very difficult: aggressive, defiant, sometimes violent, breaks into tears of despair, invents incredibly complex requests that we inevitably have to refuse, will not do as he is asked EVER, so it inevitably ends in defiance from him or shouting from us.
We have tried authoritarian; we have tried jollying him along and picking our battles. I am close to thinking we need professional help.
He is 10 and very intelligent. He would like to be in charge . We also have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Therein lies one of the issues that we don't know how to resolve: there is just not enough attention to go around and because they cannot (and nor can we) ever find anything they like to do together, it is almost impossible for us to do family things. We have to divide them up, and that doesn't work well either. Because the eldest sets the tone, the other two follow his lead and are becoming stroppy gits too. And in middle of all of this, we know it is somehow our fault.
Ah jesus, I'm even too exhausted to post any more. I just want one co-operative kid. And a weekend that is less depressing than work.
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Anyone else got three children of quite varied ages (including at least one Very High Maintenance kid) who Just Don't Get On?
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VulpusinaWilfsuit · 13/09/2009 20:57
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