Yesterday X, the mother of one of DD's classmates asked me if DD (5, yr 1) would like to go to tea with her DD today. I automatically said "thank you, i'm sure she would" but was a bit surprised as our DDs have never been friends or seemed to be on each others radar at all. Also felt a bit bemused as our DSs are also in the same class, are friends and her DS has been invited to our house on various occasions without my DS ever being invited back.
Anyway when I told DD about the invite she was adamant she didn't want to go. Said she was too shy to go on own and didn't play with X's DD. My DD has got a history of being very cautious about where she is happy to go to on her own and has been brought back early in tears before. Felt terrible for X's DD but texted X along lines of sorry KamR's DD says too shy to come, she is very tired and emotional since start of term, hope haven't offended. Got a text back, saying would my DD like to come for a play and not stay for tea. I ask DD this morning, she doesn't want to go at all. Miss seeing X at school gates this morning so send another text saying sorry she still doesn't want to come on own, thinking she might invite us all over for coffee and quick play, but no reply so she might be offended now...
I'm thinking now that I'll speak to X at school pick up and suggest to X that we could take all four DC to the park for a play after school.
What would you do if your DC was invited but didn't want to go to someone's house? Be honest like me, make excuses or send your DC against their wishes and hope they enjoy themselves when they get there?
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DD invited on playdate and doesn't want to go, have I done the right thing?
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Flyonthewindscreen · 09/09/2009 13:04
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