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Anyone else have children who fight, argue, bicker, winge at, and about, each other and tell tales ALL THE BLOODY TIME?

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 16:51

I have had enough.

It is really really getting me down.

The boys are 4 and 8 and my girlie is 6.

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toostressed · 05/09/2009 17:49

was just thinking this too so you have my sympathies.

my ds1 is 5.7, dd is 2.7 - they are constantly fighting and he makes her scream, it's driving me bloody mad

add ds 2 into the mix with his teething moany crying and i'm running for the hills.

it's just so hard. i don't know how to make things better either.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 17:51

It makes me so sad as we were desperate for a big family and DS1 was keen on another sibling before DS2 was born but I doubt they would care much of they never saw each other again.

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NoahFence · 05/09/2009 17:52

no
never

no idea why

GentleOtter · 05/09/2009 17:54

Yes we have had several hours of cliping, snitching,tears, snotters, tantrums and mess making. But enough about me....

Dh has taken them all outside.

stitchtime · 05/09/2009 17:59

anyone who doesnt, is a liar.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 18:03

And how do you deal with it?

Do you ignore all?

Do you intervene every time or just some times?

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roisin · 05/09/2009 18:03

Mine are 10 and 12 and sometimes they go through phases of just constant bickering.

But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Today ds2 was getting frustrated with his homework, I tried to help, dh tried to help. ds2 got into a real state about it and we tried all sorts of strategies and didn't get anywhere. Both dh and I were completely at the end of our tether. I left him to calm down.

Later ds1 brought him into my room and ds2 told me that ds1 has helped him with his problems, and they are going to work together on it, and then he apologised for his behaviour.

I gave ds1 a big hug and a kiss.

NoahFence · 05/09/2009 18:03

rewally they very rarely row
might say " but i TOlD him he could play in a minute" once a day or so.
no fights
no tears

organiser · 05/09/2009 18:09

Yes absolutely, I have one boy 7 and a girl 4. I was getting fed up so I put them to sleep in the same room and now they are really good pals. I still see a bit of arguing etc but generally a huge improvement. Boys need massive amounts of excercise otherwise they get bored and will annoy each other. Good Luck!!!

isittooearlyforgin · 05/09/2009 18:09

fabBakerGirl - i'm with you. Life with one was so much easier - find the constant bickering hard to deal with - no answers just sympathy

janeite · 05/09/2009 18:10

You need 'Siblings Without Rivalry' by the How To Talk people. And yes, they do it less and less as they get older.

blissa · 05/09/2009 18:13

All 3 of mine hae driven me insane today, fighting, screaming I hate it. I have been in a foul mood most of the day because of it and they are all going to bed early.

It's horrible, I don't want to spend my weekends yelling at them, I feel like the day has been waisted. I was planning on doing some baking with them today, but after the way they've been I haven't felt like doing anything with them (yes I know doing it would have stopped the fighting for 20 minutes).

They are 8,5 and 3

bigTillyMint · 05/09/2009 18:13

Yes!

Luckily DD is out all day - so no bickering, etc here today

3littlefrogs · 05/09/2009 18:13

Keep them outside, as much as possible. Only let them in if there a blizzard or a flood.

Seriously - I found mine were much more likely to bicker if they were indoors too long.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 18:16

janeite I have that book. A kind MNter sent it to me but have I had time to read it yet?

What do you think?

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blissa · 05/09/2009 18:18

I put mine out in the garden 3littlefrogs and locked the back door! They still kept on. They go on the trampoline and it's like a wrestling ring! I had to get them in in the end as the man next door is just out of hospital and I didn't think he would appreciate the screaming

bigTillyMint · 05/09/2009 18:18

I agree littlefrogs, and if they are bickering, it's alot less annoying when you are in the park!

I say divide and rule - try to get them doing different things at different times so that they are not all always cooped up in the house at the same time.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 18:22

They are all in the garden.

Giggling together and playing..

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3littlefrogs · 05/09/2009 18:25

If they can't be in the garden unsupervised you have to take them on regular forced marches.

IME they are much worse if you are trying to get on with something else. Sometimes you just have to take them out and keep them out until they are exhausted, then do whatever you needed to do once they are either asleep or slumped in front of the TV.

It DOES get better as they get older.

3littlefrogs · 05/09/2009 18:26

Ah - good. Xposted.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 18:27

I have been known to lock then out...

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3littlefrogs · 05/09/2009 18:30

Have you ever handed them their "picnic lunch" out through the window as a "treat"?

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blissa · 05/09/2009 18:33

I've only done it once before FBG, when ds was in one of his manic moods.

The trouble is there is no where in our house that they can get away from eachother. The girls share a room and none of the doors close properly.

I did intend to get them out for a walk today but it just didn't happen.

Glad yours are playing nicely... Mine are arguing over Prittstick

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/09/2009 18:33

Not thought of that one though I often threaten to feed them in the garden as they make so much mess.

Then forget.

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Grandhighpoohba · 05/09/2009 18:36

Yes! As long as no one was bleeding, I told them to sort it out themselves. Mostly.

They grew out of it. (18 and 14 now, it stopped about 6 months ago)

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