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We've all had a lovely day today, but....

(5 Posts)
lisbey Sun 30-Aug-09 19:50:38

I feel guilty that I haven't given DS2 much attention.

DS1 is away on cub camp this weekend and it was my intention to make the most of the quality time with DS2.

When they were small I spent ages painting, gardening, cooking, cutting and sticking doing "housework" playing games etc with my boys. Now they're 6&8 they don't seem to want this kind of attention anymore and it makes me feel guilty that I don't give it/we don't spend time doing things together.

So today started at 9am when I ran to the sports club where we have a family membership and DH took DS2 in the car. I met them there at 10am. DH went to do a class in the gym and I hung around to sign DS2 into an "imagine" session at the kids club. Then I went in the gym. 11am DS2 did an art class while I had a shower and DH read the paper with a coffee. Then DH & DS2 went for a swim while I had a haircut. All had lunch together then DS2 went of to play with tennis balls and 3 other boys on the squash court while DH & I finished the papers. Home for sandwiches for tea in front of Scrapheap Challenge. Then bath and stories DS2 now in bed.

We are all tired, but fully relaxed, but why do I feel guilty? Too hard on myself or should have made more effort to spend the time with DS2?

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 30-Aug-09 19:54:22

Stop feeling guilty.

Sounds like you have all had a lovely day.

You don't always have to be doing stuff, hanging out is fine, so what you have done is great.

BonsoirAnna Sun 30-Aug-09 19:58:50

Was it a David Lloyd club [nosey emoticon]

You are being way to hard on yourself! It sounds as if your DS2 had a lovely day, with a wide variety of activities with both friends and parents. You don't have to be breathing down his neck and interacting every minute to be a great parent - on the contrary!

lisbey Sun 30-Aug-09 21:13:58

LOL Bonsoir how did you guess? The cost is another thing for me to feel guilty about, but we had our money's worth today grin

BonsoirAnna Mon 31-Aug-09 09:18:11

I think you need to stop feeling guilty! You sound like a lovely family! Don't make your standards of family life so high that you can never achieve them smile - unachievable standards/parental guilt are not good parenting smile

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