Yup. 1st 6 months hard slog. Next 6 months coming out of the fog, bit more predictable so easier to try and please some of the dc some of the time. Am hopeful it will continue to get easier (ds1 starts school in 2 weeks, dd qualifies for nursery vouchers in Jan, ds2 can go to local playschool next Sept, etc...)
I found the first 6 months very difficult. From then on it got easier a bit at a time. Ds3 is now 13 months and it has been lovely for a few months now. So much so that we are thinking of having a fourth!
My main problem is DD1 (6) who has always been a hanful but hasn't taken very well to 2 babies arriving in 16 months. Just stopped BF DD3 and that seems to have helped (although I am gutted, wanted to carry on longer) as in I have a bit more time to spend with eldest two.
I just find it is chaos from the minute I wake to the minute they are in bed. I feel like a dog chasing its tail!
Thanks for all your encouragement though, I don't know many crazy people in real life who have more than 2!
I obviously did not find it too bad... (expecting DS4 )
I think a lot will depend on age gaps and how the older two take to the new addition. Are the first 36 6 months not always hard? Personally, I found the step from 1 to 2 harder, but there was only 12 months between them.
Repeat after me (MN mantra): this too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass....
ds is only 6wks old, not finding it too much of a stress so far, he's a very relaxed baby. dd1 (7yrs) and dd2 (3.5yrs) are still managing to push our buttons but they would do that regardless of whether they had a brother or not I think the age gaps we have make a difference, I only have one 'baby', and the girls love to help with their brother, when dd1 wants to cuddle him or give him a bottle, I let her! I'm sure life will all that busier though when ds is older and I have to start taking him to daycare/school/sports etc, but for now it's all good