This is NOT a judgy thread. I am genuinely interested in what you say when your friends make choices that really stick in your throat.
Do you speak your mind?
Polite smile?
Tight lipped smile?
Fake gushing so they'll never know you're secretly appalled?
My friend is lovely, and a great mum. She is doing controlled crying on her (very placid and 'easy') 4 month old because her paediatrician told her that it wasn't necessary for her to wake to feed every 4 hours overnight.
I did say I thought every 4 hours was pretty normal, in fact pretty good, but friend said that as the baby was now on solids in the evening she ought to be sleeping through.
I very mildly mentioned that I thought breastmilk had more calories, but to take it any further would definitely have left friend feeling got at and it is not my business to criticise my friend.
But, (and I realise that many people think otherwise) I really do think that letting a 4 month old cry for milk is awful. I think expecting a 4 month old to sleep through is completely unrealistic. I think 4 months is too young for solids. I think she should jolly well feed her baby and put up with feeling tired.
(I wish my 16 month old could be relied upon to sleep for 4 hours!)
But then I don't doubt that the little girl is utterly loved and looked after and happy.
Do you find it easy to do your own thing and let others do theirs?
Or is there a point at which you say what you think, and if so where is that point and how do you do it?
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What do you say when your lovely friend tells you she's doing controlled crying on her 4 month old because she wakes to feed every 4 hours?
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thatsnotmybelly · 19/08/2009 13:36
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