Have read Unconditional Parenting, agree with most of it, would like to use it as my parenting method if possible. But I have some questions and would like to know how UP has worked for others please.
- DS (only child) is only 2.3. Is this just too young to use UP?
- Any views of whether boys respond well / better than girls?
- Are there times when reasoning / talking / waiting just don't work - and if so what do you do then? eg yesterday I wanted to go out so ds had to put his shoes on, but he wouldn't. I said I would wait unitl he was ready and he could tell me when he was ready to put them on (we were going to the playground at his request!) but he just didn't want to do it and in the end I had to grab hold of him and shove them on his feet under protest.
- My reading of the book was that UP is stand-alone, and shouldn't be mixed with other methods. But are there times that you've gone down the time out / reward chart route?
What about very serious things - eg ds almost ran into the road (massive A road roaring with traffic) today and was right royally bollocked as I just didn't see any other way to get it through to him that this must never be repeated. Could you use UP methods then?
TIA - and also thanks for all thoughts and experiences on how UP has worked for you. I do totally get it in theory, but don't see how it will work in practice all the time.