It has occurred to me I am probably officially in my late-thirties. I have one dc, who is coming up for 9. Over the years I?ve often thought about having another baby, but dp was never really convinced, mainly down to money concerns and it never being the right time. I think it?s relevant here that ds was unplanned as it means we?ve never had to decide to ttc so if we did, it would all be new to us.
I go from madly broody to happy-with-one-and-not really-into-babies-anyway-as-bigger-kids-are-way-more-interesting, and back again.
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Subject: Could I? Should I? DC2 with a 10 Year Gap?
By OtterInaSkoda on 27-Jul-09 13:27:
It has occurred to me I am probably officially in my late-thirties. I have one dc, who is coming up for 9. Over the years I?ve often thought about having another baby, but dp was never really convinced, mainly down to money concerns and it never being the right time. I think it?s relevant here that ds was unplanned as it means we?ve never had to decide to ttc so if we did, it would all be new to us.
I go from madly broody to happy-with-one-and-not really-into-babies-anyway-as-bigger-kids-are-way-more-interesting, and back again.
I was at home (more or less) with ds until he started school ? if I have another baby it will be very different and I?d have to start work, probably full-time, within 9 months. Dp could also (maybe) cut his hours. But we?d be back at work all the same. So although I?m a mother already the experience, if I did it again, would be very, very different and I think I?m a bit daunted by this. More daunting still, my mother was around when I had ds but died a couple of years ago ? I find the thought of having a baby and her not meeting them unbearable, which is perhaps the real reason why I?m sometimes antipathetic to the idea. I found some blankets and jackets she?d made for ds the other day which naturally had me in floods.
So, sorry for my ramblings. I guess what I?m asking is:
- Did I spend yesterday looking at prams (my how they?ve come along!) in the Argos catalogue because I?m pushing 40 and feel it?s now or never?
- Could I cope without my mother?
- What?s it like going back to work shortly after dc #2, having spent so long at home with dc1?
I appreciate that I?m the only person who can answer these but any thoughts might help me to formulate my business case (do you think I?ve been back at work too long perhaps? )