He either has to be full on doing something/going somewhere or slumped completely inactive. If we are out on a walk and the kids and we stop to look at flowers, jump about on a tree stump etc etc he stands on the sideline like an automaton or self-conciously attempts to join in, with his body language screaming 'let's go let's go!' . I slightly dread weekends because he always want to have outings planned, which IS good but sometimes I'd like to spend a bit of time in the house or garden or just stay around locally. How do I teach him to potter!?!
My dp can't potter immediately after a long period of work - he needs a bit of time to switch off the "get on with it" reaction. So, generally he can potter on Sundays but not Saturdays. He potters better if he's had a lie in too.
Pottering was impossible with DSs under nder 5. They needed organised days out, constant activity etc. Now they are a bit older - there is more time for pottering. Weekends I potter - I get ratty if I cannot potter on my own for a bit but then I need purposeful activity too with a beginning moddle and end at specific pre-planned set times.
ooh you can't plan pottering, that's the whole point. And you can't potter outside the home, it's got to be done (usually in slippers) and at home. Fiddling with old bank statements from 9 years ago counts as pottering, organised events aren't pottering